We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie…and then disappear. Or, there are those like Marilyn Monroe and Howard Hughes who achieve extraordinary success, at the cost of their own lives. These examples do not inspire me!
My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many areas of life, and do it over and over through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and Jerry (the ice cream moguls), and a local hardware store owner who is famous for the money he’s give to children’s charities. As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman, politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable life. We all know examples of people who go from one success to another.
These are the people who inspire me! I’ve studied them, and I’ve noticed they have the following traits in common:
1. They work hard! Yes, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.
2. They are incredibly curious and eager to learn. They study, ask questions and read – constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it’s about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways. Successful people want to learn everything about everything!
3. They network. They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbors, co-workers and bartenders. They don’t have to be “the life of the party”, in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and they value relationships. Successful people have a rolodex full of people who value their friendship and return their calls.
4. They work on themselves and never quit! While the “over-night wonders” become arrogant and quickly disappear, really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don’t tolerate flaws; they fix them!
5. They are extraordinarily creative. They go around asking, “Why not?” They see new combinations, new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, “I’ve got it!” They ask for advice, try things out, consult experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster, cheaper solution. Successful people create stuff!
6. They are self-reliant and take responsibility. Incredibly successful people don’t worry about blame, and they don’t waste time complaining. They make decisions and move on. Sometimes they are criticized for taking this to extremes – Jimmy Carter carried his own briefcase and a President “shouldn’t” do that! Extremely successful people take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success.
7. They are usually relaxed and keep their perspective. Even in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people keep their balance, they know the value of timing, humor, and patience. They rarely panic or make decisions on impulse. Unusually successful people breath easily, ask the right questions, and make sound decisions, even in a crisis.
8. Extremely successful people live in the present moment. They know that “Now” is the only time they can control. They have a “gift” for looking people in the eye, listening to what is being said, enjoying a meal or fine wine, music or playing with a child. They never seem rushed, and they get a lot done! They take full advantage of each day. Successful people don’t waste time, they use it!
9. They “look over the horizon” to see the future. They observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear the nuances that others miss. A basketball player wearing Nikes is trivial, the neighbor kid wearing them is interesting, your own teenager demanding them is an investment opportunity! Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future!
10. Repeatedly successful people respond instantly! When an investment isn’t working out, they sell. When they see an opportunity, they make the call. If an important relationship is cooling down, they take time to renew it. When technology or a new competitor or a change in the economic situation requires an adjustment, they are the first and quickest to respond.
These traits work together in combination, giving repeatedly successful people a huge advantage. Because they are insatiable learners, they can respond wisely to change. Because their personal relationships are strong, they have good advisors, and a reserve of goodwill when things go bad. And finally, none of these traits are genetic! They can be learned! They are free and they are skills you can use. Start now!
All your fears in life are created by your past experiences which have created negative memories. These fears steer you away from risks and from facing life with zest.
Did you know that most people that hate their job have been programmed to unconsciously choose a job they hate? They have been programmed to believe that their choices are good; as they make these choices unconsciously.
Many people who find themselves stuck in a job with countless fears to leave, are stuck in the limitations of internal pain. What are the unconscious drivers that cause someone to stay dependent on a job that they hate? And what can you do about it?
1. Have a fear of being independent
2. Have a fear of losing financial stability
3. Engage in procrastination
4. Have a fear of making decisions and taking responsibility
5. Have a fear of failure
6. Believe that you can’t truly succeed
Then you have a significant programming problem and conditioning stifling your creativity. This is causing you to navigate towards unconscious choices which are not in your best interest. How does that make you feel to know that your free will to create and have the life you desire has been taken away by an internal program? This is driving you to make unfulfilling life choices, and will continue to plague your life taking away joy, happiness and the hopes to enjoy your life.
The items above result from old dysfunctional programming, derived from cultural standards of “old ways” of thinking; lack of parental education; peer pressure and social standards which supposedly make you happy and set you up for life. In your family of origin (the memories of which remain firmly stored in your subconscious mind much like a computer software), the above list of unconscious fears and blocks shouldn’t actually be inside of you. The sad thing is that most believe it is part of being human to have these things inside of us, which is part of the problem as to why we keep them inside.
Most people don’t realise that this programming (also referred to as “conditioning” by some) has a powerful influence on one’s self-confidence, sense of adequacy, self image, wholeness and resilience.
Let me employ a simple and familiar metaphor which will put this into perspective. Whenever a computer becomes infected with a disabling virus, it is possible to restore the computer to a state that preceded the existence of that virus. After which, from the perspective of this computer and that of the users, the experience would be as if there never was any virus.
As for the things mentioned above which are taking control of your mind, slowing down your internal process and generating either negative feelings or resisting you from your goals and objectives; can you succeed without them? Of course!
Well, what if it were possible for people carrying negative debilitating memories (which behave much like viruses, making the wounds deeper with fears) to “restore” themselves to a state before these memories where formed. What would that person be like, when the negative doesn’t even exist? The answer is, they will have actually lost the understanding of what “failure” actually means.
Why is that, you ask?
Because the “idea” of failure and the associated feelings, only originate from an experience that is defined, perceived, and accepted as a failure by others. In other words an individual must literally be “hypnotised” into taking in this negative concept by others around them. This most commonly occurs in childhood when, as a child, one is dependent, vulnerable and hence easily hypnotised by the adults around them.
As an adult once they become “uninfected” through the effective deletion of the negative memory experience, they will actually feel confident, strong, empowered, resilient, whole, complete and good about themselves. Not only that, but because the memory is now gone for good, the above experience becomes permanent.
Over a decade ago, whilst exploring how and why negative memories remain stored in the mind/body (i.e. the subconscious mind) it was discovered that
1. These memories behave as ‘Life Force Energy parasites’ in that they deplete one’s vital life energy and;
2. That these ‘parasites’ could be permanently and completely erased simply by making one conscious to the series of lies about how they supposedly serve us.
As simple as this process appears, its effects are equally powerful and profound. Indeed many individuals who have restored themselves to their unadulterated authentic state of being have realised that this state also represents a form of spiritually unshakeable confidence residing permanently within them and a will to bounce back through adversities.
If you are one who wants to break free and work for yourself to better support your lifestyle, but do not understand what is holding you back; a new process called the Mind Resonance Process can help you. After working with hundreds of people and experiencing it myself, I have yet to feel any other self-development modality do such a thing.
If you are interested in seeing this for yourself and want to take full control of your choices; contact me via the link below where you can request a complimentary 1 hour phone/Skype coaching session to explore the permanent removal of one of the above fears, in whichever situation you are currently in.
If you have tried other approaches that have failed and are ready for change, request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype coaching consultation to help you get started on your journey back to your peak performing empowered and alive self today. To learn more and explore others’ success stories, download Felicity’s eBooks.Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.