The most important ingredient for success is conditioning your mind to reduce the time needed to improve and reinforce your skills in various areas.
It can involve areas as diverse as golf to pistol shooting. This conditioning involves you, who have had less success at this point but determination and the basic skills, assuming internal models that as close as possible to those which the more successful person has developed through their greater training and experience.
You still need the knowledge to do the task; handle the gun or aim your golf ball, and the physical capacity to support your actions but, using this technique can markedly reduce the time needed to improve the results that you get.
You are, in effect, using the expert’s recipe (internal model) to produce a better result than you could get with the one that you have built up inside your own mind and muscles at this point.
You will probably not equal their results during the training process, but your rate of improvement will be more rapid from that time onward. You may also need to train yourself to accept that the rate of improvement is really possible. Many of our limitations are imposed by our own poor self-beliefs.
Sometimes that mental limitation is reinforced by our parents and our peers, too.
So, we model the methods of those who are getting the results that we desire. Then, we produce a mental image of us doing the task more successfully than ever before. This might be from a viewpoint inside your own body or as a movie where you are watching yourself doing it.
Some people are more comfortable with one method or the other but you should try each method and not just stay with the first one that you try all the time. Using one method will be better for you with some activities, while you’ll get better results with the other in different situations.
A particular method will not always be the best for everyone that is engaged in the same activity because our circumstances, belief systems and ability vary greatly. So, if one type of mental image does not help you much for some task that you are trying to improve your results with, clear your mind and create the other type of movie (internal or external view).
Of course, you will find that the benefit you get from these techniques will improve as you use them a few more times and become more confident about their effectiveness.
If you don’t get the sort of results that you expect with both types of mental reinforcement, you may need to study the expert more closely; your modelling may not be based on sufficiently accurate and detailed information of the expert’s approach and techniques.
Use Positives to Reduce Negative Influences
Another powerful technique that will accelerate your path to success is to consistently fill your mind with positive thoughts and reject or, at least, reduce the impact of negative influences that may be around you.
When a particular problem is pressing on you to the point that it’s affecting your work or personal life, it can help to write out the problem and all the possible outcomes. Some people can do this just as a mental exercise, but others find that they can focus better by writing it all down.
Now, consider the worst outcome and how important would the impact of it really be?
People that go through this exercise often realize that they have assigned greater importance to the matter and brought more suffering on themselves than necessary because the most feared outcome may be much less likely and its impact not as critical as they had feared. If that is true for the matter you are dwelling on, then just crumple the paper and dispose of it.
If the matter is truly serious, the exercise of writing it down will help you to see the best options that you can use to deal with it, so that you can take action.
And, after all, taking action when you have worked out the different possibilities first, is the best way to handle any problem.
Anchor Yourself in the Good Times
There are many strategies that help people improve their lives and relationships. One such strategy is Anchoring’, which helps reproduce your most pleasurable and successful actions and combat the effects of any negative conditioning which you have stored within yourself.
When you achieve a particularly good result with something (such as a golf stroke), or feel particularly good at a social gathering (enjoying a joke with friends or after a really nice meal), anchor the feeling that is in your mind so that you can quickly recall it at other times when you may be finding it hard to stay motivated or upbeat.
You just need to do something that you don’t do as part of your normal routine and associate the action with the pleasure you are feeling at that moment. You might, for instance, touch your right shoulder with your left hand or, less obviously, touch the thumb and a particular finger of the same hand together.
Do it a few times while the good feeling is still fresh that helps your new anchor’ to get a firm hold in your subconscious mind.
Self confident people stay ahead of deadlines
Self confidence is known to make employees more effective in their jobs. Confident employees are capable of taking up complex tasks that require greater commitment and concentration. Confident executives are filled with hope and enthusiasm and are able to charge up the atmosphere of their workplace thereby inspiring people around them. These executives are a great asset to their employers as they have all that it takes to finish to with perfection the task at hand. Self confident people develop a habit of succeeding in whatever task they put their focus on. These guys surely beat deadlines.
Self confident people remain cheerful
A confident person is able to complete his jobs within the stipulated time and maintains an organized schedule. Staying ahead of deadlines keeps a person in control of the situation and matters at both office and home. A task completed well on time gives a certain joy and lots of time at hand as well. This avoids many tight situations and helps to maintain the calm and poise of a person. Self confidence is the best “face pack” one can have. You can make out a self-confident person with his beaming eyes and a cheerful persona.
Self confident people enjoy better health
Self-confident people are able to deal with chaotic situations with comparatively more calm and poise. They do not get puzzled because they have an inherent belief that they are capable of setting things right and make constructive efforts to solve the problem. This helps them avoid stress, high blood pressure, anger and confusion. Self confident people are, hence, on their way to good health and peaceful life.
Self confident people have more time for their family
A good day at workplace more often than not is quite a big factor as to how a person behaves once he gets back home. A great day at office makes a person cheerful and someone who would like to share happy moments with his family. He will have more time for his family. Spending time with spouse and kids often is a rejuvenating experience and makes him or her look forward for another great day.
Self confident people enjoy stronger relationship bonds
Spending time is the most precious investment one can make in any relationship. These days when divorce is on rise among working couples, confident people take difficulties in their stride. They are better organizers and are able to draw a line between work and family, creating a balance in their work and family lives. They are able to spend quality time with their families. They make sure that the time for the family should remain exclusively for the family and they avoid mixing it with work. Spending more time with children help them grow up with more sense of security and belongingness. These children, thus, have much greater chance to be self-reliant and self-confident when they grow up. Self confident people, by the virtue of their ability to organize things better are able to cement relationships with time and care. Self confident people also have friends and enjoy active social life.
Self confident people make more money
Self confidence helps executives generate a lot of team spirit and to have the ability to take up complex tasks and lead from the front. These qualities certainly bring profits in various ways for the company they work for. They are able to focus at the job at hand and complete it successfully. Self confident people tend to climb the corporate ladder comparatively fast and getter better pay packages!
Self confident people become role models
Self confident people stand a far greater chance of achieving success in life both on their work and personal fronts, than their counterparts. Self-confident people develop a certain charisma around them which makes people look up to them. They believe in themselves and develop the courage to take on bigger problems and provide solutions. Self-confident people rise to enviable positions and act as a source of inspiration for learners and beginners. Self-confident people have more capability to become an asset to the company they work for and the nation they live in. People take pride in knowing and following them, and they often become role models as an employee of his company or as a father of his kid!