How to attract what you want and stop attracting undesirable situations from reoccurring

Did you know that it is not a coincidence that you attract situations that make you question if you should accept them? The man with kids, or the job with less pay, the unsavoury housemate, the woman who isn’t fully committed when you truly desire to be with someone who is.
Many people live by the rejection concept; instead of taking life by the horns and creating what they desire they just grab and take whatever situation comes along. Many of these people believe “if it happens it happens” and “if it crossed my path it was meant to be” or “if it works out then it was meant to be”. The problem with this level of thinking is that it is not coming from your authentic fullest expression. These thoughts are being generated by the ‘fear of having what I truly want’ and desire with an unconscious belief of ‘I am not worthy of having what I want and desire’.

This belief was taken on in your earliest years, as a survival mechanism in the unconscious mind to protect you from disappointment. As part of this strategy to protect yourself from further disappointment, there is a so-called ‘protective mechanism’ lying dormant in your unconscious mind which is shaping your behaviours and actions.

The problem with this strategy controlling your behaviours and thoughts is that it perpetuates unfulfilling situations, unfulfilling relationships and leaves you asking yourself how did I get here, or how did this life happen to me.

To explain how this protection strategy works – picture someone coming across a situation or opportunity in which this unconscious protection strategy deems the person to be unworthy of. That person will start to avoid, sabotage or notice a barrage of internalised rationalisations and excuses (generated from this fear) as to why they don’t want that positive life enhancing opportunity.
This unfortunately causes the person to unconsciously choose negative life choices and make bad career or relationship choices, leading to reduced self-esteem, confidence and over time; leading to depression.

So what is the solution to break free from this unconscious strategy? How can you stop these important decisions being made unconsciously on your behalf and remove all unconscious behaviours? The solution is to challenge the unconscious strategy and not replace – but completely remove – all unconscious trigger systems in which this belief is hooked into.
The natural, unquestioned tendency is to “believe” that these past unconscious memories of disappointment are cemented in the memory, because it happened to you and therefore fundamentally represents who you are i.e. someone who has low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-confidence, a fear of expressing their real self, feelings of inadequacy and so on.

These feelings continue to live deep within the person making them vulnerable to being re-triggered by daily events and making poor life choices. As a result, the individual’s choices are focused on trying to avoid such triggers – hence activating the fear of ‘I am not worthy of having what I truly want and desire’.

As you can see, this severely limits and constrains the expression of the individual not to mention the course of their life. In many cases attempts are also made to quench or dissipate those inner negative feelings through some form of sedative such as drugs or alcohol. Although perceived as a temporary solution that allows them to endure otherwise untenable situations, the sedative approach only serves to enslave them to a life of addiction as a consequence of an unfavourable situation an individual seems enslaved in.

So, much like working with an outdated computer software with limited capabilities it only makes sense to scrap the old, i.e. the past, and begin afresh with an entirely new script. In the case of the “human hard drive”, i.e. the unconscious mind, it means erasing the memories of the so-called past and allowing for an entirely new and more expansive script to replace it. This results in life changing decisions whereby the individual chooses and creates from a place of free -will and not from the rejection concept.

In order to do this one must first bring into question the limiting belief that the “past cannot be changed”. How is this possible? Well, there is now a new coaching modality whereby through a simple question and answer process, it is able to access the unconscious scripts that anchor those past memories inside you and literally detach them or erase them completely as well as the consequential beliefs shaping every day decisions.

As this happens, the limiting negative memories simply begin to float away into space where they disintegrate and vanish from your consciousness forever. This allows a spontaneous and remarkable process to succeed it; the reintegration of what I have called your Life Force Energy back into your mind and body.

Life Force Energy is like a master computer programmer that has infinite knowledge and skill at reprogramming your mind. What’s more, it has only your best interests at heart and is there only to serve you.

If you’d like to learn more about this process contact me via the link below to request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype consultation.

Visit the website: www.instituteofselfmastery.com.au

Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.

If you have tried other approaches that have failed and are ready for change, request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype coaching consultation to help you get started on your journey back to your peak performing empowered and alive self today. To learn more and explore others’ success stories, download Felicity’s eBooks.

Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.

Think Positive about Your Self Confidence!  

 

A person’s self confidence is their ability to believe in themselves.  People with a high self confidence are optimistic, assertive, and eager individuals ready to take on the world and conquer the goals.  On the other hand, people with a low self confidence find themselves often distant and despondent, constantly questioning themselves and often passive or submissive.  Self confidence is the key to succeeding in your academic pursuits, athletic activities, employment field, and private life.  Individuals that entertain a high sense of self confidence usually go on to phenomenally succeed, whereas individuals with a low sense of self confidence tend to be brought down by their inner demons and fail.

 

The trap of low self confidence is extremely easy to fall into and extremely difficult to remove yourself.  That tiny voice in the back of your head that criticizes, questions, and insults can easily grow louder and louder the more you listen.  Instead of traditional angel on one should and devil on the other, someone with low self confidence finds the devil there more often than not.  Instead of boosting themselves up by enjoying their accomplishments or congratulating themselves on a job well done, individuals with low self esteem find their shoulder devil is constantly picking and finding fault in the midst of triumph.

 

They key to maintaining a high self esteem is positive thinking.  Individuals that think of themselves in a positive light are more likely to have a higher self confidence than those nay-sayers in the crowd.  One way to remain positive and keep and upbeat aura is to surround yourself with positive people.  Avoid individuals who criticize, nit pick, and put down.  These negative individuals are a sinking ship and will only bring you down with them.  By surrounding yourself with positive people, you will find it easier to maintain your high sense of a self worth and banish that devil from your shoulder.  If you find yourself in a situation where you must deal with individuals with a negative outlook, confront them on the matter.  Often, office gossip, school yard taunts, or home issues bury themselves deep within our minds and wreck havoc on our self confidence.  Instead of allowing yourself to be burdened by these harmful words and thoughts, fight back!  Refuse to stoop to their level, but insist the back biting and drama cease with the negative words.  This task is certain to be difficult and the easiest thing to do is to walk away and let yourself moon over the hurtful words and thoughts, but the right thing to do is to attempt to put a stop to the situation.  If the individuals refuse to cease, continue, or even worsen their actions, then break apart from the trend.  Unfortunately, this may mean ending relationships, both personal and job related.

 

If you find yourself surrounded by so-called friends who constantly make you feel poorly about yourself and lower your self confidence, it might be time to part ways.  Remember, friends, family, and loved ones are supposed to make you feel good about yourself and have your best interest at heart.  This is not always the case and friends by title alone can do more harm than most enemies.  Furthermore, personal relationships can have the same—if not worse—affect on one’s self confidence level.  Quite often, individuals in abusive relationships find themselves despondent and upset about their situation.  If a loved one is making you feel poorly about yourself by constant criticism, abusive language, and distrusting actions, drastic circumstances may be due.  Make the case for a change in the relationship and make your loved one understand what his or her words, thoughts, or actions do to your self confidence.  If this fails, you may need to make a painful break, but remember, your loved ones are supposed to love and support you at all times.  If someone is failing to do so, they have not fulfilled their role in you life.