The 8 Laws Of Success

David Essel’s 8 Laws of Success

The “Law of Attraction” excites Americans with dreams coming true, like imagining “checks in the mail “, so that we become millionaires or, by having a vision board, we will somehow magically attract our soulmate. It taps into the emotional side of many people who love to live in this realm of life. But it’s not very realistic. It’s more “wishful thinking” than anything else. Let’s think for a moment. If a program offers huge results, with little to no effort, isn’t it time to stop buying into the insanity? Millions of people have used this technique, yet few will ever find success from “wishful thinking or fantastical affirmations.”

So, where do we go from here? …

 

In my #1 best selling book, “Positive thinking will never change your life…But this book will! The myth of positive thinking, the reality of success,” I share that affirmations are a great way to start the day…But it doesn’t matter how much emotion someone puts behind them, they are never going to radically change anyone’s life, unless it’s a miracle. Enough of the nonsense!

The following information can be used by anyone to create the life they desire.

#1. The ability to be successful lies within everyone. Yes, you can create an incredible income, lose the weight you desire, create deep loving relationships, release addictions and find a pathway to your creator. You have THE RIGHT to be successful, as much anyone else on this earth.

#2. Unless it’s a miracle, your thoughts are not powerful enough to create success on their own. Your thoughts will not create “checks in the mail”, weight loss, nor will they attract the perfect lover. We’ve been fed nonsense, if we believe these success fallacies. This is crucial to not only understand, but to accept as true.

# 3. The number one block to success, are the beliefs held deep within the subconscious mind. The role of the subconscious, is to keep you exactly where you are, which is commonly referred to as the “comfort zone of life.” Now, this doesn’t mean that the “comfort zone”, or these subconscious thoughts are healthy. Wherever you are lacking success, we can guarantee that your subconscious thoughts are sabotaging the success you desire.

# 4. A thought, regardless of how positive it is, cannot change a negative behavior long term. Unless it’s a miracle. You cannot “think, or affirm”, your way out of an addiction, financial hardship or a terrible relationship.

# 5. The only way to turn the subconscious mind around, from a saboteur to an ally, is to repetitively, on a daily basis, do the action steps you would rather not do. Success demands that we all invest more time, effort and money into our biggest goals. Over time, you can create a subconscious mindset that will continue to push you forward on your path of success.

# 6. In 37 years of work in the field of personal growth, we have found on average that an individual who is struggling deeply with addiction, weight, finances or their love life… Will have to put approximately 12 months, or 365 days of doing the work they would rather not do, in the area of life they are struggling with, in order to turn the subconscious mind around.

#7. Through action steps into the uncomfortable for a 12- month period time, the uncomfortable just becomes who you are. Where in the beginning it was a struggle to lose 100 pounds, at the end of 12 months of changing your diet and exercise habits, the new habits simply become who you are. An effortless part of your life. Success.

# 8. Affirmations, vision boards, and the like, will be important for only 20% of your success. Regardless of what you’ve been told, statements such as, “what you think about you bring about” are not true. Unless it’s a miracle. 80% of your success will come from your willingness to do the steps you would rather not do on a daily basis. This is the true “secret” of success.


David Essel, M.S. is the best selling author of 9 books, a counselor and master life coach and inspirational speaker whose work is endorsed by celebrities like Jenny McCarthy, Wayne Dyer, Kenny Loggins and Mark Victor Hansen.

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7 Steps To Achievable Goals

Why is it that most goals are never achieved? For many setting a goal appears to be the end result however goals need to be acted upon every day. These seven steps, if applied conscientiously, will ensure you achieve your goals but it will always be hard work.

How many times have you heard that being successful is all down to setting goals? It may come as no surprise to you to learn there is a lot more to success than just setting your goals.

Most of us, at some time, have been told that an essential part, if not the major part, of being successful is setting goals. If that were true many more of us would be successful millionaires, actors, parents…etc. In this article I show you why many people fail to achieve their goals and how to be successful whatever you want or need.

1) What is a goal?

A goal is a target achievable in measurable attainable steps. It is more than just a desire or a need and has an existence of its own. A desire or a wish is less tangible and often just fleeting. Who doesn’t desire or wish to win the lottery with all its millions in prize money. Very few would not but, despite the widespread desire, it is not a goal. A goal is a desire, wish or need achievable by actions you can take. It is more than a mere wish or desire.

2) How to set a goal?

Setting a goal is a process which starts with an achievable wish, need or desire. First you must decide on the following

What do you want?
Where do you want to be?
Your status, career or qualifications?

A goal can relate to any desire, wish or need achievable by actions you can take.

You then break down the goal into small individual steps or actions. Achievable goals are goals where you can influence their realization and measure your progress towards them. Achieving long term life changing goals is a process of achieving, step by step, short and medium term actions.

3) What actions are required?

Goals require action on your part. You first need to decide what action is required to achieve the goal. Your first action is always to always write your goals down. Putting pen to paper, and this is one time when a real pen and paper are required, gives your goals an existence of their own.

Writing a plan is an essential step in achieving your goals – without it you will, over time, amend the long term goal to fit your reality. You will eventually reduce the goal to a wish, and wishes only come true by chance.

4) Analyse the results

You then need to analyse, and work out in detail, how you are going to accomplish each individual goal. This means writing a detailed plan of what tangible actions are required to achieve each individual goal.

These actions then become smaller shorter term goals leading to major longer term goals.

5) What steps do I need to take today?

Every day ask yourself “What steps do I need to take today?”. By now it should be all planned in advance so check your plan and make sure you take each step every day. If you discover additional steps are needed add them to the plan.

6) Review your achievements every week and month

Every week review your progress for the week. Check what you’ve done and what you may have missed. Adjust your plan for the next week or month.

Your plan should always take into account what you will do today, tomorrow, this week, next week before the end of the month, in the next 3 months, 6 months…? Always write down your results.

7) What if things go wrong?

If goals were easy to achieve everyone would be successful millionaires. Goals are difficult because they move you outside your comfort zone to do things differently. To be successful you have to face your own fear of failure and take risks. There will be setbacks, expect them, they are part of the process.

If you are not prepared to take action towards your goals then you are wasting your time. True success comes from the daily actions we all take. Using goals ensures that all the actions you take are moving you in the direction you wish to go. Daily or weekly reviews keep you on track and applying these simple tips will ensure you achieve your goals

Attract Success Now!

Impress and Inspire Others Without Speaking a Word.

When you walk into a room, isn’t there someone who stands out from the crowd? You may have not spoken to them but you watch as people are drawn to their secret positive energy. The way you feel about yourself, as opposed to how you try to look, sends silent signals to others before you utter your first word.

It tells people how you want to be treated. This unseen dialogue is known as sizing one another up and reflects how you want people to treat you. Sometimes without even realizing it, we sabotage new business relationships by thinking negatively. Our self doubt dismisses brilliant ideas and partnerships before we even give them a chance to succeed. The secret to success is learning from our experiences, good and bad, rather than letting them become the foundation for new efforts. To develop a positive attitude and attract the success you deserve, simply: 1. Bring the best of yourself. There is no reason to inflate your self-image by trying to turn self-doubt into a strength by joking about your weaknesses or covering them up. You may believe this projects success but in reality it lowers your self-esteem. Any action you take to appear strong can be read by other people as an even greater weakness than it really is. Your conviction to your goals and your confidence to ask for help is all people you meet really expect. 2. Turn your subconscious outcome meter to positive. It will be too much work. Someone else can do it better. When you attempt something new, release your past failures and turn off any negative background noise that is automatically triggered. As you uncover any negative thoughts, acknowledge them, and then release them. You can’t predict the future so how do you know what you can and cannot accomplish? 3. Be your positive self. Instead of feeling that you need to control how people think about you, just state your goals and discover common ground. You don’t need anyone’s approval to achieve your dreams. Most people do not have to the time to evaluate or judge, they are most interested in how they can help. 4. Take action even if you are confused. Catch yourself when you are about to act from weakness. If you feel vulnerable, accept it as a natural part of being human. The but what ifs you place on the end of our thought processes, even without realizing it, dampen your secret enthusiasm. Let reality throw obstacles in your way, and agree to discover the steps to overcome them. 5. Keep silent, and then speak. Fear often makes us want to impress others. While participating in a conversation, cancel any undetected weaknesses by conducting a quick internal check before speaking. Does that remark you are about to make, or the answer you are about to give benefit the conversation? If not, keep silent. Silence is often stronger than words. Simply recognize that you are in control. You may be able to blame others but that just digs you deeper into self-doubt. You have accomplished a great deal in life and in your business, think positively and enjoy the outcomes.