Optimism Aids Success

In life, you are forever full of choices. You may choose to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may choose to take the optimist’s route and have a challenging and fulfilling life.

Optimists expect the greatest. They tend to think defeat is just a fleeting delay, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to center on and plan for the ‘difficulty’ at hand. In other words, they most likely reinterpret an off-putting experience in a way that helps them discover and mature. Such people are unfazed by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.

Bright expectancies of optimists also forecast better reactions during transitions to new environments, unexpected tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People react positively to optimists. Optimists are upbeat and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or influence people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be catching and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise. Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic
They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer. Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive attitude can cause a considerable boost in the body’s ability to fight disease.

Reaching Your Goals Begins Here

Most people perform better when they are heading toward a goal. But it is important to understand that the goals must motivate. If your goals leave you feeling inadequate, stressed out, or over-worked, then you will lack the motivation to complete them.

Goals that motivate have specific characteristics:

* Clarity. Clear goals are specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, and time-bound (SMART). When a goal is clear and specific, people know what needs to be done and what is expected.

* Challenge. We are often motivated by achievement, so we’ll judge a goal by how difficult we perceive it to be. If it is too easy, we won’t give it as much attention and energy. However, if it demands us to stretch ourselves in order to achieve the recognition of a job well done, we are more likely to be motivated to excel.

* Commitment. For goal setting to be effective, the goals need to be agreed upon and understood. While this doesn’t mean you negotiate every goal with every employee, there is value in engaging the people working towards the goal in crafting it. When we help to create the stretch goal, we are more connected to the challenge and more willing to commit. The harder the goal, the more commitment is needed.

* Task Complexity. For goals that are highly complex, we have to not only give people sufficient time to meet the goal, but actually provide the time to practice or learn skills that are necessary for success. The purpose of goal setting is successful achievement, so you have to be careful that the conditions around the goal support that success rather than stifle it.

* Feedback. Incorporating feedback into the goal setting process allows for expectations to be clarified, difficulty to be adjusted, and recognition given. In particular, when a goal is long-term in nature, it’s important to set benchmarks that help people gauge their success and see their achievement.

Once the goals are defined, each goal should be “drilled down” with specific objectives and measures. Objects can be thought of as the yardstick; measures can be thought of as the exact location on the yardstick of each goal area; and both short-term and long-term objectives and measures should be defined.

When determining your objectives and measures it can be helpful to ask, “How will we know when this goal is achieved?” “What, exactly, will be different around here when the goal is attained?”

I appreciate this simple statement from Sir Edmund Hillary: “You don’t have to be a fantastic hero to do certain things – to compete. You can be just an ordinary chap, sufficiently motivated to reach challenging goals.”

 

Deciding What You Want in Life

We create our lives. We also create our own luck by what we do or fail to do. There is no such thing as good luck and bad luck. How do you get what you want?

What is that you really want in life?

We probably want a lot of things right? But what is the thing that we want most? How do you recognize it?

When I was 16 years old (Legal age to drive with a permit and an adult accompanying you) all that I really wanted back then was a 1968 Mustang, with a 302 engine, and a 3 speed transmission. I didn’t really care about the conditions, all I wanted was a Mustang that met that criteria.

Well back then I didn’t know how to attract things into my life. So it took me 8 years to get my 1968 Mustang, with a 302 engine, and a 3 speed transmission. The condition is that it needed a lot of work. But remember what I said? I didn’t care about the conditions, so I got what I wanted exactly what I wanted in. If I only knew what I know now, maybe that Mustang would have came faster than expected, and in better conditions.

When you really want something in your life, it will come to you. As a matter of fact by the time you think about it, it’s already yours, but how do you get it?

The key is to be CLEAR on what you truly desire, how much energy you are going to put behind that it is what you want. Be careful on what you wish for. Because you will attract it into your life. Just like the Mustang I wanted, you will get yours too.

So how do you attract it too?

Write on a piece of paper the 10 things that you really want. Next you have to be honest with yourself here. Rank each one of them from 0 to 10. BE HONEST!!!

How do you know if one of them is a 10? You will feel it in your heart right away. Is that thing that makes your energy spark. That’s how you’ll know.

Now discard everything is 9 and below and concentrate on your 10’s.
Describe what is that you want very detailed, exactly what you want to see and have.

Now picture it in your head as if you already have it.

The universe will know when is time for you to get it. And when that time comes. You won’t even know how it got there. But you will enjoy it as much as I did and continue to enjoy my car.

The best thing of all is that you can do this over and over and over again. In every area of
your life.

Try it and let me know what happens?

For your Success,
Jorge Fernandez de Cordova
Success Coach
www.successismylife.com

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My Mission is to give those that truly desire it; the tools and the knowledge to get the most out of life helping you achieve your goals and dreams.