“ Smile , it is the key that fits the lock of everybody’s heart.”
Anthony J. D’Angelo
Back from Florida ahead of Hurricane Wilma, I asked my teenage son what he thought I should write about this time and he said ‘doughnuts’. I explained that although I found the topic an intriguing one (my mind immediately leaping to how I could link this into an interesting piece), it really needed to be more relevant to what I do, not what he would like to be doing! So his next suggestion was ‘Smiling’.
I nearly dismissed this until I remembered that while I had been working on the fourth module of my e-course today the topic of smiling had come up. It was in the context of self-confidence and how to develop it, in this case by meeting people with a smile and a friendly manner so as to engage and interest them. By asking people about themselves and really listening to their answers with a smile, not only will they feel comfortable and pleased to be around you, but your confidence will grow with each encounter. You will be remembered as much for your smile as who you are and what you do. As long as the smile is genuine and you use eye-contact you will come across as friendly and approachable – and confident. Smiling is such a powerful tool.
I couldn’t leave it there, so did a search on Google and came up with the following:
More facts about smiling
• A smile is a universal expression of happiness and recognized as such by all cultures
• A smile is the most frequently used facial expression It takes as few as five pairs of facial muscles and as many as all 53 to smile
• Regardless of the precise number of muscles used, smiling causes far fewer muscles to contract and expand than frowning
• Smiling releases endorphins and makes us feel better
• Even ‘faking’ a smile can lead to feeling happier
• People are born with the ability to smile (They don’t copy the expression, even babies who are born blind, smile)
• Babies reserve special smiles (Duchenne smiles of joy and happiness) for their loved ones
• A newborn shows a preference for a smiling face over a non-smiling face
• Women smile more than men
• Younger people smile more than older people. American males with high testosterone smile least of all.
• There are 18 different kinds of smile used in a variety of social situations
• Human beings can differentiate between the ‘felt’ (Duchenne) smile (of joy and happiness) and the social smile – ‘it’s in the eyes’ (literally)
• A smiling person is judged to be more pleasant, attractive, sincere, sociable, and competent than a non-smiling person
• A person who studies laughter is called a ‘gelotologist’
Can smiling help you to move forwards? Are you lacking in confidence and afraid to be noticed? Practice smiling. Think of what you can ask people about themselves and jot down some notes. Try it out on a family member, friend or a colleague that you trust. Think about those people who seem to always have a smile and a word for others. How do they make you feel? You can be like that too.
You can choose to be permanently grumpy or you can choose to cheer up and smile! Have you been putting off the smiles? By smiling you will be releasing endorphins in your brain which will make you feel better (see above). You can even trick your brain into believing you feel good by getting that smile on your face, even if you don’t feel like it yet. Do it long enough and you won’t have to fake it.
One of my favorite exercises is to have a ‘Smile Day’. From the moment I get up I decide that I am going to smile at everyone I see. It doesn’t matter if I know them or not, I will still smile, and often say ‘Hello’. It is amazing how many people will smile back. Sometimes you don’t get one in return, but most people are delighted to return it to you. By the end of the day I am much more happy and positive than when I started.
What makes you happy? What do you like doing? Where can you include more of this in your life?
Try and smile at at least one stranger each day. For the less confident this could be a challenge – but you can do it!
Happiness comes from many sources, including expressing ourselves creatively. What are you going to do this week to express yourself? I have planned a whole day of crafting, as I have been putting that on the back seat for quite a while. You don’t need to commit to a whole day, just what you can.
A smile costs nothing, however it brings great richness to the recipient
I think a lot about making this year better than the last.
But lately, something’s hit me. What about making the year better than – the next one, and the one after that, and so on? After all, if all we ever do is base our improvement on what’s already happened, then we’re severely limiting our perspective.
This year could be the year that changes your life forever. It could galvanize who you are in a way no other time has or will – in your lifetime.
Yet, none of that will happen if your perspective is based solely on improving on what you’ve already accomplished.
By comparing your year to what it was last year, it’s easy to make small changes. Instead of creating a revolution in the way you lead your life, you’re only likely to create a mere evolution.
– Go to the gym a little more frequently
– Pitch more clients and apply for more jobs to improve your salary
– Spend more days out with your family
“If this was the best year of my life, what would have to happen?” ~ Brian Tracy.
Whatever the case may be, even if you decide to step things up by a huge amount, because you’re only using last year as your template for what this year could be, you’ll likely only improve by 5-50%.
But if you look beyond what you’ve already accomplished, you’ll be in a much more empowered position to reach your full potential.
Last year, for instance, I only wrote eleven articles on self-improvement. If i try to build on that, then I might only try to double that at most this year. But if I drop the model of linear growth, I can force myself to jump into a position that allows me to take a ‘quantum leap’.
Under this model, if I consider that I may be 10x as prolific in three years, there’s nothing stopping me from attempting it this year. And even if I don’t reach it, I’ll be better off by the end because I would have attempted to do more than I otherwise would have.
Introduce New Technologies into your Life
Archimedes once said: “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.”
With the aid of technology, you can make your goals easier to achieve. Whether it’s with a new laptop that allows you to accomplish your work faster, or something as simple as listening to the right music for your productivity.
The more you can introduce levers in your life, the easier building momentum will be.
You don’t always need to work harder to get more of what you want. Instead, consider and purchase the right physical and digital technologies -so that you move towards where you want to go, more easily.
Making progress based on what you’ve experienced last year is a step in the right direction. But looking at the past keeps you tunneled in. Looking into the future makes you think outside the box and act on outlandish possibilities.
Getting to where you want to go this year doesn’t have to be hard. Start comparing your present to your vision of the future – and make the necessary adjustments.
My Last Words
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