Experience Inner Peace

Inner Peace. Isn’t that what we’d all love to experience consistently as we weave our paths through everything life gives us? The good news is that it is far simpler to attain than many of our outer (material or physical) goals. The bad news is that simple isn’t always easy! Attaining inner peace is not easy because it means replacing old habits with new, and that requires dedicated commitment. But the benefits are absolutely worth the effort.

Inner peace gives you the ability to live your life with a sense of happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment which is not disturbed or influenced by outside events. How do you acquire it? By living your life your own way, not how others think you should. By not worrying about what others think of you – we all judge others (both positively and negatively) according to our own values, but if we try to live our lives in a way which honours somebody else’s values rather than our own, we’ll always have a little gnawing discomfort going on deep inside.

To experience inner peace, we also need to be able to forgive and to let go of guilt. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Feeling guilty about past actions won’t change them and won’t make anybody feel any better (either you or the person whom you’ve hurt). Do what you can to put things right, resolve to do better in the future and move on.

Likewise, letting go of anger or grudges will bring about a surprising sense of peace. Think about it – how does holding onto these negative emotions help you? And do you think they hurt those against whom you hold them more than they hurt you? Not at all. They are your emotions and you are the only person whom they can harm.

Of course, it can be very difficult to forgive someone who’s hurt you, but what I’ve come to realize is that most people don’t maliciously set out to hurt others, and those who do are deeply unhappy themselves. The motivation behind their action was most probably some kind of fear rather than deliberately wanting to cause hurt or pain. And thought of in that context, it’s easier to let it go.

And with a little bit of practice at forgiveness, you may even find yourself getting less annoyed or angry with people in future. When you can shrug things off and not take things personally (it’s really about them, and not you at all), you’ll have a greater sense of inner peace. Our happiness is determined by how we think about the events in our lives, rather than by the events themselves. Take charge of your thoughts and you take charge of your emotions.

To achieve inner peace, you also need to let go of worry. Hmm, another tricky one! Worry is similar to guilt. Worrying about what might or might not happen is completely unproductive, and totally destroys your ability to enjoy the present moment. A great shame that, as the present moment is all we really have.

So, how do we learn to let go of worries, guilt and anger? Well, the first thing is to become consciously aware of what we’re thinking whenever we feel worried, guilty or angry. Notice what’s going on in your inner dialogue, and acknowledge that it’s your thoughts about the external event that’s causing you to feel the way you do, and not the event itself. Then reframe your thoughts to reflect what’s going on around you in a more positive light. Whenever you catch yourself thinking the old thought, banish it immediately and replace it with the new one.

“No-one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.” — Dr Wayne Dyer

This will take a lot of practice but with patience and persistence you will develop a lighter inner dialogue that promotes a feeling of well being and inner peace, and the world will feel like a far better place to live in!

4 Common Reasons Why You Fail to Achieve Your Goals

Are you making progress? In this article I’m going to give you 4 reasons why you fail to achieve your goals and hopefully by the end of this article you will be able to make the necessary adjustments.

1) You have too many goals

How many goals do you have? Having too many goals is one of the most common mistakes that people do. When you try to aim at too many targets as the same time you end up hitting none of them.

Look at your current list of goals; what are the two or three main goals that you absolutely want to achieve?

To achieve your goals I highly recommend you to focus on the 1 or 2 area(s) of your life in which you really want to make significant changes. Identify the one or two main goals that will have the maximum impact in these areas before moving to any other areas of your life.

Main areas include your career, your health, your relationships, your personal growth and your finance. You should spend the majority of your time working on these goals because they will have the biggest impact on your life.

What are the areas of your life you really want to focus on right now?

2) You are not obsessed with your goals

Let me guess: the only time you set goals is at the beginning of each year as part of your so-called New Year resolutions, but you quickly forget your resolutions a few weeks later.

Let’s be honest, how truly committed are you to achieve your goals? How often do you look at your list of goals?

Here some of the things I personally do to ensure I stay on track with my goals:

  • I look at my goals every single morning and read them out loud 2 or 3 times
  • I’m constantly thinking about them throughout the day.
  • I make my goals a must. Not achieving them is a big deal
  • I keep talking about them with my friends or other people I meet in order to increase my commitment to them

What about you? How obsessed are you with your goals?

3) You are not mentally prepared

You may be obsessed with your goals but what if you encounter major setbacks during your journey towards these goals?

Most people give up to easily on their goals and the main reason for that is because they fail to prepare themselves mentally for temporary setbacks. They don’t create a clear plan of action that they can implement to cope with setbacks. Here are some questions you should ask yourself:

What are all the possible obstacles that I may encounter as I’m working towards my goals? How will I tackle them? What would have to happen for me to give up?

Just by visualizing everything that may go wrong and writing down a contingency plan you will significantly increase your ability to persevere when facing temporary setbacks.

4) You lack patience

I found lack of patience to be a major problem as I work towards my goals. The more obsessed you are with your goals, the more emotionally involved you will become. This is a good thing.

However, you also need to realize that constantly thinking about your goals can make you feel like you’ve been working on them for an entire year even though it has only been two weeks!

Then, you start feeling like you are not getting any result and before you know it you start doubting yourself ready to give up. Does it sound familiar? When that happens, keep telling yourself « it’s okay, I have time. I have time. »

You have time so don’t let your mind trick you and keep working on your goals every day. Let me say it again: “you have time!”.

These tips helped me tremendously stay on track with my goals so I sincerely hope that they will be as beneficial to you as they are to me. In case you don’t have written goals yet, I highly encourage you to get started today!

Living Stress Free And Achieving True Happiness

True happiness is derived from freedom, the freedom to perceive things as you wish and the ability to create your own utopia. You do not have to be what situations and people make you. You can live a completely stress free life if you value every single aspect and occasion, as everything happens for a reason.

Variety is the spice of life. In this sense, daily challenges serve to stimulate our imagination and stir up our creativity as we look for ingenious ways to solve them. There is nothing greater than a challenge when you have got something to prove. For those who can see where the beauty lies, it is such an adventure to face complex difficulties. Therefore, obstacles should act as an immunity towards achieve a stress free lifestyle.

Heroes are excited by the prospects of having to solve a puzzle that no one else has. Only when we acquire brand new eyes shall we discover and live stress free. The champions of our age enjoy endless romances with obstacles. I actually think the luckiest person alive is the one whose life is plagued with so many insurmountable problems such as the seven labors of Hercules for he is so blessed with an abundance of opportunity.

Not being attacked by problems is a sign of disaster; it denies us joy. We constantly need to be tested and inspired so that we become what we should be thus live stress free. Only fools wish to meet zero obstacles and to sit and relax without working. If you feel that you would be happy if everything you needed was just provided for you and you do not have to work you are cursed. The curse of being born with a silver spoon in one’s mouth can only be broken by spitting that spoon and going out to look for challenging scenarios.

It is such a pity for someone to bribe to get promotion: I would rather have my values than be rich. Listen to some advice: “if you can see a shortcut ahead, think again.” The presence of challenges is the invitation to a stress free life and hence true happiness.

 

 

New Beginnings: The Gift Of Starting Over

I recently had the pleasure of seeing the movie, “50 First Dates” starring Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. (Note: this article contains spoilers for the movie. If you haven’t seen it yet and don’t want me ruining the surprise, you might want to put this article aside until after you’ve seen it.)

The main character, “Lucy” (Barrymore) has virtually no short-term memory due to a car accident. She remembers everything up until the point of the accident, but retains no new memories of anything that has happened since. When she goes to sleep at night, she forgets everything that happened that day, and awakens thinking it’s the day before the accident happened.

I’m sure you can imagine the challenges of such a condition! Anyone she meets, she forgets. Holding a job is nearly impossible since she can’t remember the previous day’s events. Relationships present another challenge. When Henry (Sandler) meets Lucy, there is instant attraction between them, but each day she forgets she met him the day before. It seems impossible to have a long-term relationship with Lucy, since she can’t even remember him! Finally, Henry gets the bright idea to make a video that she can watch each morning, detailing her life since the accident and her budding romance with him. Lucy also begins to keep a written journal, so she can skim through the previous entries and read about her life from her own perspective.

Though the situation is difficult to say the least, this movie contains a beautiful metaphor for new beginnings. How much baggage do we bring to each new day in our own lives? How many grudges do we hold? How many disappointments do we cling to, and let them color today?

Though we can’t fully forget like Lucy, we can certainly make a decision to wipe the slate clean each morning and start over again! It is often our own refusal to let go and move on that causes the most pain. Each day can be a new beginning if we choose to make it so. Each night before bed we can choose what we want to keep and what we want to release. We can become someone new, purely by the power of our thoughts and intentions. The toughest part is deciding exactly who we want to become, and having the courage to see it through!

I am currently doing this in my own life. I’m pulling out the old, dust-caked parts of myself that I deemed unacceptable years ago, and giving them another look. And I’m discovering they aren’t so bad. 😉 What about you? Are you ready for a new beginning? Are you afraid of starting over? There really isn’t anything to fear but fear itself. Once you actually begin the process, it becomes wildly exciting!

Maybe you’re happy with yourself already. If so, that’s wonderful! No need to fix it if it ain’t broken. But if you’re living in a vacuum of dissatisfaction and boredom, it might be time to write the next chapter of your life. Or even a whole new book. You are the author. What do you want the storyline of your life to say?