Reinforcing Self Esteem at Home

Your home should be a place of peace and refuge where you can find rest and solace in order to recharge from the events of the day.  This refuge is especially important when it comes to reinforcing your self esteem.  Each day, our self esteem suffers from drastic blows from friends, family members, coworkers, spouses, children, school mates, or even perfect strangers

Instead of allowing yourself to become entrenched in feelings of self loathing or self doubt, take time to reinforce your self esteem in the comfort and privacy of your own home.  Know that you home is a refuge for your body, mind, and spirit so that you can devote the necessary attention to yourself.


When dealing with reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home, consider creating a space that is only for you.  Take a private corner, cozy niche, or spare room and create your own private oasis.  Each individual will have a different idea of an area that is totally relaxing, calming, and reenergizing to him or her.  Maybe you see a sparse Asian-inspired area where you can practice your tai chi and meditation in order to rebuild and replenish your spirit.  Perhaps your idea of a private sanctuary is a plot of land where you work in tune with nature to care for terrific plants of all species and types.  Maybe your private oasis is a cozy reading nook filled with books, a comfortable chair, and good quality reading light.  Whatever your space looks like, ensure it is made especially for you.  Instruct your spouse, children, siblings, family members, or roommates to avoid your special space so that you can maintain the personal and private feeling.  Also, instruct anyone who shares you home not to bother you while you are in your personal oasis.  Attempt to create an atmosphere absent of distractions like the telephone, computer, or television.


Other ways to reinforce your self esteem while at home may seem silly or trivial, but will make your feel better about yourself and your strengths.  Leave a message for yourself or a family member every morning on the bathroom member.  Include compliments and praise in this message in order to reinforce your own or another person’s self esteem.  If you live with someone else, take turns leaving each other notes so that you can both assist each other in this task.  Also, place tokens or items that remind you of your achievements in prominent places around your home.  These tokens can include ribbons, trophies, certificates, rewards, photographs, or special memorabilia from an important time in your life.  Ensure these items are in a place that you are sure to see daily.  Your refrigerator door is a great place to post self esteem boosting items, since you are sure to visit the fridge at least once a day.  Additionally, the bathroom mirror is an excellent spot since most individuals will at least take one glimpse in the mirror before leaving for the day.


An excellent way to reinforce your self esteem is to praise yourself for goals accomplished.  Even something as simple as losing a couple pounds should be celebrated in order for the accomplishment of the goal to become a reality.  When you accomplish a large goal that you worked very diligently to work towards, plan a party.  This is an excellent idea to plan a festive event in order to celebrate with your friends and family members.  Your self esteem is sure to be boosted after a fabulous party thrown in your honor!  These tips are excellent methods to reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home.

Tips To Increase Your Self Esteem And Confidence

Whenever one is beset by a situation that he or she is unsure of – facing someone admired, having to perform in front of an audience, or simply talking to others – he or she is facing a goodly amount of stress. Confident people are usually able to face these situations without blinking; but the rest of us will probably melt away and try to run away from the situation.

For most people facing this kind of low self-esteem, these situations present an opportunity for them to make fools out of themselves. This is a very embarrassing prospect.

If you are one of the millions of people that would like to stop fidgeting in front of others, trying to squirrel out of such situations, and being so unsure of yourself when facing presentations, here are a few tips to set you on your way.

1. Competence is Confidence – Some organizations, like the Toastmasters, help those afraid to speak in public toughen up by stressing this credo – and it really works. One secret to confidence and self-esteem is to be able to trust what you are able to do. This comes with a lot of practice and study. Whenever you practice a given skill, you increase your own confidence in your capability to perform even in front of other people.

Before a big presentation, study up. Try to know everything about the topic before you step in front of the audience. If you have practiced way before the presentation, you will be in a better position to knock their socks off.

Practicing in front of supportive people you trust will help you get feedback on how to improve your performance.

2. Believe in Yourself – One of the reasons people are not confident in themselves is the fact that they are already convinced that they will fail even before anything happens. Never underestimate the power of the mind. If you believe you will fail, you indeed will! A better exercise would to be to believe that you can succeed. Set your mind towards succeeding and you probably will!

3. Take Criticisms, whether Good or Bad – Most people are bad at taking criticisms. Instead of taking the criticisms personally, use every comment and suggestion to make yourself better. However, you will also have to look out for some criticisms that were never meant to benefit you. Ignore them and move on.

4. Remain Calm at All Costs – Panicking never benefited anybody. If you are suddenly in a situation where you are unsure of what to do or what will happen, keep your composure. If you don’t know the answer, say so calmly. If you do not know what to do, it would not be bad to admit it. However, beneath your cool fa

Dominican University study: Working with animals increases self-esteem in children

Students from Dominican University of California worked with Afshin Gharib, a professor of psychology, to survey children and young teens participating in weeklong humane summer camps.

Marin Humane educators have always believed that children who learn to be kind to animals develop empathy and compassion.

“Now we have the data to prove it,” and that’s thanks to a Dominican University study, said Darlene Blackman, director of community outreach at Marin Humane.

Over the past three years, Dr. Afshin Gharib, a professor of psychology at Dominican, has been working with his students to survey children, ages 7 to 18, who participated in a weeklong humane education summer camp offered at the animal shelter’s Novato campus.

Blackman joined Gharib this week to present the study at the National Humane Education Conference in Seattle, while 19-year-old Danielle Davis, a second-year psychology major at Dominican, presented at the National Conference on Undergraduate Research in Memphis.

The study shows that working with animals not only teaches empathy toward animals and other people but it improves self-esteem.

“That’s the interesting message,” Gharib said. “The children who participated in the camp would also build self-confidence … and more internalized locus of control, meaning, they felt more in control of the paths in their lives.”

The presentations were on data collected over the past two years only, Gharib said. Overall, he and his students have worked with about 700 children in programs at the Oregon Humane Society and an animal rescue team in Iowa.

In Marin, Gharib and his students issued a survey on the first day of each camp. The test included measures of self-esteem, locus of control, attitudes toward animals and empathy toward other people. The same test was administered on the final day of camp. They were able to test 365 children.

By the end of the week, scores improved by about 5 percent for attitudes toward animals and 2 percent of increase in self-esteem; children actually showed improvement on every measure.

“What’s most impressive is that in only a weeks’ time the children showed improvement,” Gharib said. “This shows why humane education is useful, and it’s valuable to support these programs.”

The Novato nonprofit offers one-week camps for children in grades 1 through 12. The participants learn how to care for pets, participate in crafts, games and other activities designed to teach humane treatment of animals.

Each year, they are able to accommodate about 220 children in its summer programs. Registration is full already for this summer, which will see about 250 children, said Lisa Bloch, spokeswoman for Marin Humane.

Blackman, who has been working at the Marin Humane for the past 25 years said the nonprofit leaders are excited about the results and hope to expand their summer and after-school humane education programs.

“Our programs are making a difference for kids,” she said, noting that the data is validating.

As for Davis, she’s excited to be able travel and to share her work.

“I was able to learn more about what makes humans empathetic and the role that animals can play in that process,” she said. “Fortunately, our research yielded positive results.”


Adrian RodriguezAdrian Rodriguez covers Mill Valley, Belvedere, Tiburon, Corte Madera and Larkspur for the Marin IJ. He also writes the weekly business column Movers & Shakers, which appears in Friday’s paper. Reach the author at or follow Adrian on Twitter: @adrianrrodri. Reach the author at .