How to Build Self-Confidence in 8 Steps

Why is self-confidence so important? It is important because it gives you courage, self-esteem and assertiveness. When self-confidence is present, you are not afraid to take risks and to try new things.

Self-confidence is essential for a happy and successful life and is a quality of character that most people appreciate, when they see it in other people.

When you possess self-confidence, you do not allow what people think and say about you to affect you, and you don’t take things too personally. This means a more peaceful life.

Most people are not born with this quality of character. However, you can build it up. You can build self-confidence by changing your mindset and your attitude toward life, even if various personal experiences caused you to lose it.

How to Build Self-Confidence

I would like to suggest a few simple tips to help you build self-confidence.
1. Think about what you have already done in your life

Even if you experienced failure and unhappiness in your life, there certainly are a few achievements. These need not be great achievements, but quite simple things, like getting good grades at school or college, promotion at work, getting along well with your neighbors, getting your driving license, or learning to swim.

Thinking about those achievements makes you realize that you have experienced success in your life, and not all is failure. This would make you feel better about yourself and about your life, and improve your self-confidence.

2. Focus on what you did and achieved, not on what you did not do and did not achieve

Why fill your mind with scenarios of failure? If you keep thinking about failure, you expect and anticipate it and attract it to you, and this further spoils your sense of self-confidence. Replace the negative movie in your mind with a movie about success. See yourself in your mind where you really want to be, living the life you really want.

If you can keep watching a movie of success in your mind, you will attract success. This process would build up your self-confidence.

3. Write down a list of your achievements and success

Take another step toward building your self-confidence and write down a list of your achievements and success, and at look at this list often.

You might say that you have never experienced success. You are wrong about that. You might have not experienced great success, but you surely had, even if only occasionally, experienced some kind of success. Even baking a good cake, being in good relations with your spouse or children, or going for a walk almost every day is success.

4. Think of your talents and abilities

Set a time each day to think about your talents and abilities, and find ways to develop and use them. Do not say that you have no talents and skills. Everyone has some. You just need to find them.

5. Strengthen your willpower

Lack of self-confidence goes hand in hand with lack of willpower. If you strengthen your willpower, your self-confidence would grow strong too. I have written a lot about willpower in many articles, and offered a few exercises to strengthen it. I have also written a book about it, so there is no need to go deeper into this topic here.

6. Set small, simple goals

Set small, simple goals that are within you reach and go achieve them. This will greatly boost your confidence. I am talking about really small goals, such as cleaning and arranging your wardrobe, inviting friends to your house, starting to learn swimming, or taking a day off and having fun.

These small acts will make you feel better about yourself and increase your self-confidence.

7. Develop a positive attitude

Remove from your mind all negative words and do not use them in your conversation.

Instead of focusing on negative events and expecting the worse, make the effort to focus on the positive and expect positive outcome. This might not be easy if your mindset has always been negative, but with persistence, you can change it. You will find plenty of information about positive thinking at this website.

8. Give yourself motivational talks

Remove any negative commentary running in your mind. Be firm and do not allow negative comments about you and about your life to run in your mind. You need to be more aware of what is going on in your mind and not allow negative comments and negative inner conversations to go on.

These tips will help you build your self-confidence. In some case, you might need more than these tips. Sometimes, if there is extreme lack of confidence, you might need to seek professional help, like a counsellor or a psychologist, who might help you find the problem to the lack of self-confidence and offer you ways to help you build it up.

Author :

Remez Sasson
Remez Sasson is the founder of Success Consciousness. He is the author of articles and books, teaching how to use one’s mental tools and inner powers to create a life of happiness, success, fulfillment and inner peace.

How To Have Self Confidence?

Easy to identify, yet probably difficult to define, conceptualize, and measure what does self-confidence mean?

One of the main requirements to success, happiness and reaching your goals is confidence. Having enormous self-confidence will also be useful in just about every part of your life.

Lets get straight to the point you were not born with self-confidence, that is, self-confidence is not something innate this can be taught, nurtured and built over the years, at any stage in life.

Confidence is the personal ownership of no one; the person who has it learns it and goes on learning.

Your degree of confidence is truly the outcome of how you perceive yourself – which is eventually how people will perceive you. How people interrelate and respond to you is a reflection of how you perceive yourself.

Therefore if you dont have a high degree of self-confidence or a huge deal of self-esteem then its mostly because you are concentrating on your negative traits and on what you are doing wrong.

In other words, you are being your own worst enemy! The good thing is that you can alter this and improve your self-confidence.

How To Gain More Self Confidence

The most talented person on earth has to build confidence in his talents from the foundation of faith and knowledge, like anybody else. The device will be different from one person to the other, but the necessary job is similar. Confidence and attitude are accessible to all of us according to our skills and requirements not somebody elses as long as we make use of our talents and develop them.

Self-confidence is an approach which lets individuals have positive yet reasonable viewpoints of themselves and their conditions.

Self-confident people trust their own skills and abilities, have a general sense of influence in their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they desire, plan, and anticipate.

Having self-confidence does not necessarily mean that people will be able to do everything.

Self Confidence Activities

Self-confident people do have expectations and standards that are realistic and reasonable. Even if some of their standards are not met, they remain to be positive and to accept themselves.

People who are not self-confident rely extremely on the consent of other people in order to feel good about themselves. They have a tendency to prevent taking risks because they are afraid to fail. They usually do not expect themselves to succeed.

They often place themselves down and tend to disregard or overlook remarks and praises paid to them.

On the other hand, self-confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they normally believe in their own skills and abilities. They tend to accept themselves; they don’t feel they have to conform in order for them to be accepted.

Self-confidence is not essentially a general trait or characteristic which permeates all aspects of a persons life. Usually, people will have some aspects of their lives where they think they are quite confident, for instance, academics and sports, while at the same time they do not feel confident at all in other fields, for example, personal appearance, social relationships, among others.