8 Steps Towards Becoming The Leader You Need To Be To Succeed

An important part of success in life is the ability to lead. It is important that we not only be able to lead others but be willing to lead ourselves. No one succeeds in life by simply following others. Sometimes we simply must strike a bold new path for ourselves.

Being a good leader is more than simply being at the forefront of the crowd. A leader must act. Too often in America, we simply accept that someone looks or sounds like a leader and too rarely do we actually look at the actions that leader performs — and that is the true test of leadership.

However, in order to become good leaders ourselves, we need to concentrate on actions rather than simple appearances. The title of this article refers to eight steps, but do not think of these as progressive steps like so many recipes or instruction manuals describe. Instead, think of these as actions that you must take on a regular basis.

First, be alert to new potentials. “Reality” is not absolute but rather subject to constant change. Think about inventors, explorers, and agents of social change who have achieved greatness. Some might simply say that certain people are successful because they are lucky to be in the right place at the right time. Maybe so, but if they hadn’t had their eyes open for the opportunity, then it wouldn’t have mattered if they were in the right place.

Second, accept inspiration from wherever it comes; even your opponents. The wisest leaders constantly study their competition. In war, politics, and business we constantly see examples of this research and reconnaissance. Too many times though a certain study, many concentrate on finding a weakness to exploit. If you want to a be a leader of positive change don’t fall victim to this trend. Instead, if you find a weakness, make sure to avoid that pitfall yourself. If you find the strength then find a way to strengthen your own qualities to match.

Third, learn something new and promote in new ways every day. This means you must continually seek to expand your horizons, internally and externally. Feed your mind with new lessons and knowledge, but constantly expand your social horizons as well. Seek out and meet new people and immerse yourself in new social situations. You never know when these new experiences will help you in your leadership role.

Fourth, search for and find answers in subtle clues. Look beneath the surface and constantly question. This is an extension of the third step in that you are seeking new knowledge. But this also means that you will need to step off the traditional paths of knowledge. Don’t simply read books in the literary canon or the bestsellers list. Take seminars rather than classes as there is more room for questioning and debate. Seek out the unconventional thinkers, teachers, and writers.

Fifth, improvise if no existing solutions are available. No excuses. Necessity is the mother of invention. How do you know it won’t work if you’ve never tried it before? Remember, not all approaches need to come from the front. Look at your problem from all sides and systematically attempt different solutions in various combinations.

Six, make at least one person you care about happy every day. If you make it a point to be thoughtful and caring for one person every day then soon this thoughtful, caring behavior will become a habit and that habit will spread to the others around you. Making someone else happy also feeds your own personal happiness. Just imagine how much better the world would be if we all did a little bit more to spread happiness.

Seven, offer help, even if there’s no apparent advantage to you. This means more than writing a check. It means giving of your time and energy and yourself. Sometimes it will mean helping someone you don’t know and sometimes it can be a very personal action.

Finally, never let negativity be your last word on the subject. If your final words are negative than no matter how hopeful you may be about the potential of a project or action the lasting impression you give to others is one of negativity. Accentuate the positive and you are more likely to see a positive outcome.

If you follow these eight action steps not only you will be a better leader but also lead yourself to a more successful life.

Be Your Best ‘You’! by Chris Thompson

Many people hope to reach their self-actualization level in life before they bid this world goodbye. We admire the most successful people and tend to think that they achieved this in a day. But this is a big no! It takes patience and hard work. I will demonstrate eight (8) tips on how you can be that best person you have always dreamed of. 1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. To improve yourself worth, always believe in yourself. If you don’t believe in what you can achieve, then nobody else will. Keep your dreams alive and real. Never be scared of dreaming big. Actually, if your dreams do not scare you, then they are too little. Keep working towards them. Remind yourself of what you want to achieve when an obstacle comes your way. Hold your head high and don’t listen to the negativity from the pessimists. Soon you will be glad that you believed in yourself. 2. Gain Inspiration From Other People. The world is not an island. We need each other to improve our well-being. It is crucial to have role models that we aspire to be like. From them, we borrow great lessons and inspirations. You do not have to copy necessarily everything they do. Borrow what seems helpful and leave what is not. Remain true to yourself and practice what seems important to you. Never despise people in life. There is always something to learn from each one of them. If you don’t agree with them, remain positive and correct them if you can. 3. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone. If you want to be that best person in your lifetime, then it’s time you add the term ‘Risks’ in your life dictionary. To make it in life you have to wake up from your comfort zone and take the life risks by the horns. Risking means taking up new challenges and being ready to conquer them. As you try new things, it is very crucial to tell yourself that you can. If you don’t believe that you will make it, then you will undoubtedly fail. 4. Say Goodbye To Procrastination. It is always said that time is money, and I agree with this phrase 100%. Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried. This just explains why many end up losing a lifetime opportunity for not putting the time factor into consideration. Always learn to do what can be done today and never push it to a later date. If you have to do something, do it today. 5. Keep Practicing. Practice practice makes perfect. To be a better person and improve your skills practice is paramount. Nobody turns out perfect overnight. It is a process that requires practice. Keep redoing what you want to turn out great and with time you will be glad that you never gave up. 6. Discover Yourself. It is funny how many people do not know who they actually are. To be that best person you wish to be in life, it is important to discover who you really are. Be aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Dig deep to understand your hidden talents. Work on them and improve them daily. With time, you will be shocked how close you are to be the person you always wished to be. 7. Be POSITIVE! There is nothing that kills an individual fast than being a pessimist. Be positive in life and to everyone around you. This not only ensures that your heart remains clean but also improves your relationship with others. Just keep off all negativity and your life will shine all the way. 8. Learn To Let Go. Life has a thousand lessons to teach us. Sometimes you will be that bubbly being full of excitement while on other dull moments you will be so sad and hurt. To keep keeping on, always learn to let go. Try and forgive those who hurt you but never forget the lessons you learn from these moments. Never make your heart a bank of all the low moments and hatred. Let go and let your life go on. Many more lessons will be waiting for you. Just keep calm. Life is all about being positive, appreciate what you have, spread love to those around you and keep smiling. Your actualization level is just too close than you can imagine. Be thankful for every day and cherish the people you love all around you….Now, be the best person you can be! Stay happy!

7 Reasons Why It Is Important To Have Goals

I recently had a conversation with one of my former students. She has been out of school for a few years now but isn’t satisfied with the direction her career has taken. In fact, she’s not too happy with her personal life either. Her voice developed more than a touch of whine as she said: “I don’t know what to do.”

So I asked her about her goals. Her response was a rather slack-jawed look of surprise. “Goals?” Well at least she wasn’t whining anymore.

I asked her what she would like to see her career in a few years. I asked her where she’d like to see her life in a few years. She knew the answers to those questions and quickly became animated as she discussed her desire to start her own business. We talked about what she would need to accomplish her goal and what she would have to change.

When we parted ways she felt a lot better about her job because she knew that she wasn’t trapped in it. She was taking a necessary step to prepare herself for a long-term goal. She had her eye on the prize and that focus energized her.

That is the power of goals. What are your goals? There are seven reasons why you need to have goals.

~ To give direction to life
~ To make sure we are the one choosing the direction of our life — not others, not fate, not the media, etc.
~ To motivate
~ To make sure we get what we want from life
~ To save time
~ To reduce stress
~ To give a sense of accomplishment

While it can be fun to live without direction in the short-term, in the long-term human beings are wired to need a purpose and direction. Goals give a sense of direction and purpose to life.

It is often easy to let others set our direction for us. We take a job because family or friends point us in that direction and then we follow the dictates of our bosses. We move in other directions because popular culture or the media tells us to do so. The simple truth is that if we do not set our own goals then we will find it too easy to follow a path set by others. This can lead to stress and unhappiness. We have a greater chance of happiness and fulfillment following our own path and pursuing our own goals.

While goals certainly give our lives direction, they also provide the motivation to get us through difficult times and choices. Perhaps going to college at night while working full-time may be stressful and difficult in the short-term, but in the long run being able to pursue the professional goals we desire will make it worthwhile.

Goals also serve as the destination for what we really want out of life. For some people, goals are measured in money or material goods, while for others goals are measured in time or freedom. If we do not have goals outlined that suit our unique perspective on life it is easy to become sidetracked by life and others.

Goals can also help save time. When your “To Do” list becomes too long and your calendar too full, then you can simply compare your goals to the list. What items help you achieve your goal? What items are necessary to your goal? Scratch off the rest as unimportant.

Just as goals save time they also reduce stress because using your goals to focus your life and choices makes it easier to make those choices. Should you take that new position at work? How does it match your goals?

Finally, goals give you a measurable sense of accomplishment. Every goal you achieve, in fact every step you make toward that goal, can give you a boost of energy and momentum to keep going. Each success powers you toward the next level of success.

Now go out and set your goals!