Finding Meaning in Everyday Life

Clients come to my office for a number of reasons. For example, when they’re feeling depressed, when they’re feeling anxious, and when they are experiencing conflict in their relationships, but also when they’ve become bored with their lives.

For these people, meaning and engagement in life seemed to have disappeared without conscious awareness, and not all of a sudden. Instead, it seemed to filter out slowly and they just woke up one day and experienced an emptiness that wasn’t previously there.

The sort of passion, energy, and curiosity they once had about life had slipped away, and in the absence of it, they felt lost, unmotivated, and not at all certain about how to get it back.

Sound like you?

So when I’m faced with clients who live a ‘ho hum’ existence that offers them little opportunity to stretch their wings so they can discover who they are, and what they’re capable of, some of the questions I usually ask is what, in years gone by, were they curious about?

What made them laugh? What caused them to experience excitement and challenge in their life? Was there a time when they couldn’t wait to get out of bed so they could engage in whatever made them feel truly alive? And if so, what were they doing at the time that caused them to feel that way?

In other words, what elements existed then that no longer do? What made their view of life change, such that they no longer experience it in the same way?

Part of the problem, I’ve come to believe, is that people who search for meaning in their lives often bypass the simpler, and more every day, experiences that usually make up the larger meaning of one’s life.

In other words, rather than searching for the one and only thing that will help them understand why they were put on this earth, or a hunt down a singular way to make an everlasting and profound difference to the larger society, we sometimes forget to seek out answers to life’s meaning that might be discovered down several different avenues closer to home.

For example, learning a new language, or taking up one that had been started at one time and later dropped; becoming a volunteer in an organization that holds personal meaning for whatever reason; adopting a new kitten or puppy; taking a university or college course; beginning a new fitness program that involves others with similar interests; consider changing jobs, or even professions; or reacquainting oneself with friendships that perhaps had slipped away over time.

These are only a few ideas but it’s important to remember that we can find multiple meanings in our lives. I previously mentioned, there isn’t just one justification for our existence; there an unlimited number of ways to experience engagement in one’s life, and ways that might not stay the same over time.

In fact, what was meaningful to us at one point in life, may no longer seem as compelling now.

I believe that as we change, and even as we age, our definition of what’s meaningful changes with us. So if we lose the ‘thread’ of what it used to be, we need to rediscover how we might define it today.

And if you’re bored to death with your life, don’t fret. Know that the boredom you’re experiencing is a vital tool for pushing you out of the places where life has become routine and stale, and toward a direction of internal and external revitalization.

On my fridge, I have a reminder of one of the necessary ingredients of my emotional and mental well-being, and it’s played a huge part in my life for well over three decades.

The quote simply states that: “[t]he greatest happiness is curiosity”, and I know it to be true; the lack of curiosity often leads to a dull, unchallenging, and boring life for many of us, and if it’s not addressed, depression can often follow closely behind.

And when we get to that point, it becomes tremendously difficult to break out of the inertness that has slowly swallowed us, but break out of it we must or life will seem increasingly meaningless.

So take some time to discover what you may find curious now – listening to a TED Talk once a day might help – and you gain a curiosity about things you may never have considered interesting before.

The idea is to stretch yourself to look at life from different perspectives – especially if you’ve lost your own – and in the end, you’ll likely trigger a spark of curiosity and interest that results in fostering far greater meaning for your life on a daily basis.

What can you start doing today to get out of your feeling of boredom?

 

11 Magic Affirmations — Be confident and Laugh More

The power of affirmations can improve and even transform your life in many ways.
Can they help you reach any goal? Can you alter any situation to your liking? While positive thinking and the law of attraction are important, you need to consider other spiritual laws too. For example, the laws of karma and predetermination supersede the law of attraction.

We’ve found in our empirical research that a lot in life is fated (which is the same as being destined), which mirrors your personal timing.

Thankfully, you’re not just a puppet; you can make the most of your fate with your free will.

One way you can do this is with affirmations. What you think and believe can influence your reality, within the borders of your fate.

Affirmations are especially helpful when you’re plagued by worries, self-doubt and negative thoughts. Life is stressful and challenging, and how you perceive it can make a big difference. Take control and replace counter-productive thoughts with positive thoughts; it’s a simple and healthy way to use the incredible power of your mind.

The subconscious mind has a huge impact on your life and subconscious fears and defenses can cause lots of problems. Defenses include guilt, jealousy, selfishness, anger, argumentativeness, a domineering attitude, resentment, a temper, an anti-social personality, secretiveness, arrogance, vanity, and many more.

It’s not easy to change. In fact, sometimes your subconscious mind will go to great lengths to stay exactly where you are, what it considers safe, even if you consciously want to improve.

Fortunately, your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between reality and imagination. Therefore, repeating affirmations is an affective way to help you reach your goals or just to feel better.

Confidence and a sense of humor can make just about any situation easier to deal with, even change a stressful or unhappy situation into one you triumph over. With a little effort, you can increase yours with the magic of affirmations.

Below are 11 magic affirmations to help you magnify your confidence and sense of humor. The more you repeat them, the more your subconscious mind will embrace them, and the more you’ll naturally act confident and be funny.

Choose one or more of the following affirmations, write it down and tape it to your computer or dashboard. Repeat it many times a day, especially when you find yourself feeling fearful or thinking negative thoughts. You can also use them as a mantra on which to focus in meditation.

1) I am feeling more confident every day.

2) I feel peaceful, relaxed, and self-assured. (It’s easier to be confident and funny when you’re relaxed.)

3) I relax easily by breathing slowly and deeply.

4) I enjoy finding humor in life and making people laugh.

5) I find humor in everything and love to laugh.

6) I am happy, humorous, and fun to be around.

7) I feel calm, relaxed, and hopeful around other people.

8) I exude confidence, sincerity, and humor.

9) I radiate warmth, self-confidence, and love.

10) I sparkle with self-confidence, humor, and vitality.

11) I make people laugh with ease and confidence.

Note: Affirmations will not change your fate, but if you use them often enough, they’ll bridge the gap to a better reality.

Now that you know how thoughts influence reality, you can use these affirmations to increase your confidence and sense of humor.