Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
There are three kinds of people in the daily life. The first kind of people belong to those who will do something with a mind of playing. Those sort of people will give up when they confront any difficulties or problems. Another sort of people belong to those who give themselves a lot of pressures. When they confront troubles, they will make an effort to conquer them until too much pressure overwhelm them. Those kind of individuals are too easy to breakdown.
Those two kinds of people I mentioned above don’t belong to winners in daily life, as a result, they are not the goals of you. We should try to be the next kind of people.I mean,those who keep improving themselves and be aware of the importance and significance of stability. They know that no matter what happens, they should know how to control the processes of events. They are aware of the methods and manners of dealing with emergencies. They know how to make the worst plan when terrible things happened.
So, what is the secret that you are supposed to know if you want to get wealth and success?
First of all, I would like to tell you a small story. The Dodger Team in America is well known around the world. Once upon a time, the old baseball players had a party together. A journalist wanted to asked those old team members several questions to knew the secret of success. To her surprise, all of them mentioned “teamwork” a lot of times when they talked about their teams.
Yes, maybe you already got the secret of success. Right! It is team work!
If you want to be succeed,you should guarantee that there is at least one team during your daily work.You can contribute your energy,enthusiasm and intelligence to this team so that you can gain the maximum benefits. If you are lack of such kind of team,you won’t make big fortune in your lifetime since the power and strength of one person is fairly limited. Besides, you can’t enjoy the achievement of working together and the happiness of team work. Furthermore, members of the team can come up with plenty of nice and wonderful opinions so that all of you can make an effort to handle tough questions together.
Only through working together can you give full play of your abilities and competence. Devoting your vigor to your team can make each member of the team work in the maximum efficiency and bring into play of their potentials.
As a result, don’t hesitate to build up a new team for yourself if you are eager to get wealth and success and wish to have a big enterprise in the near future.You will enjoy the fun and happiness through team work, I promise.