5 Special Steps to Boost Your Happiness with Positive Thinking

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”― Gandhi


We are all chasing happiness is some form. Be it in the form of money, health, fame, love….We all live with the misconception that happiness can be achieved by possession of the things we hold so dear to our heart. Is that really true??

One of my favorite comedians and actor Jim Carrey rightly said “I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that its not the answer.”

The happiness we seek stems forth from within. Within where your thoughts lay. Within where your feelings rest. Your mind and your heart is the within where true happiness resides.


So why aren’t we happy then? If its that simple, if its right Within us, how come we are all still chasing it..happiness I mean?

It all boils down to ONE single thought.

Ever notice how when something ‘not so happy’ is happening in your life, your heart and mind automatically go to the worse case scenario. That is the root cause of all unhappiness. That single starting point where the negative thinking spiral starts…that’s where we need to nip it in the bud.

Here is ‘HOW to Boost Your Happiness with Positive Thinking’ and nip that negative thinking in the bud :


You and only YOU can boost your happiness by focusing on positive things and reducing your negative thinking. You can do it with practice: Simply, by following a negative thought with a positive one. This practice will help to retrain your habitually negative thought patterns to bring more positive thoughts to your life.

Ratios especially the ratio of positive to negative thoughts is a major factor in our overall happiness. Our brains are constantly monitoring the emotional tone of our thoughts – too many negative thoughts and our brain responds by creating stress and sadness in our body. When we add more positive thoughts, our brain will create relaxation and happiness. By training yourself to follow (or dismiss) negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll improve your positive/negative thought ratio and be happier.

Now, How do you stay motivated to Stay Positive?

After you’re aware of your negative thoughts and feelings and work to counteract them for a few days, they will gradually begin to lessen. You’ll be able to concentrate more on what you want to do without experiencing distracting emotions and stress. This will make you more productive and energetic. And best of all, it will make you happier.

Step 1 – Start by Listing Happy Thoughts:

Start by taking about 15 minutes and list all the happy thoughts you can think of. Just use a piece of paper and make a long list, give it a good 15-30 minutes. List people and places that make you happy – good friends, favorite vacation spots, childhood memories and more. List things that make you happy – puppies, babies, the smell of a new car, a favorite dinner, a day off relaxing by a pool. List(happy list) anything and everything you can think of that makes you happy.

Step 2 – Awareness of Negative Thoughts & Feelings:

Just for this week, commit to pay attention to your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about or feeling anything negative, sad or stressful, label that thought “unhappy.” Don’t worry if you have a lot of unhappy thoughts and feelings throughout the day, that is perfectly normal. Just pay attention and label them.

Step 3 – Instantly Follow With a Happy Item:

After you label an unhappy thought or feeling, follow it immediately with a happy item from your Happy List. You might pick one item to use all day long, or choose different ones each time you need them. Just bring that happy thing to mind for a second or two.

Step 4 – Smile SO much:

Whenever a negative thoughts comes up, replace it with a happy item from the list, but don’t forget to smile while doing so. A smile makes your mind calmer and every negative thought seem less stressful.

Step 5 – Make your personal Commitment to think positive:

Positively Affirm everyday(especially when those negative thoughts and feelings strike) by saying this to yourself : I will flip my negative/stressful thoughts and feelings and follow them with a happy thought.


Some special tips:

  • Please don’t judge yourself. We all have lots of unhappy and negative thoughts throughout the day. As you become more aware of them you might feel embarrassed or ashamed about how many you have. Don’t worry, it is perfectly normal to have all sorts of strange thoughts – we usually don’t pay so much attention to them.
  • Force a smile on your face as you bring your happy thought to your mind. This will help erase the effects of the negative thoughts.
  • As a few days pass, the vast number of negative thoughts and feelings often decrease. As if the brain gets bored being negative, because you replace the thoughts so quickly(and happily) with positive ones.
  • Make sure to remind yourself to do this task throughout the day. Don’t let a day go by without engaging with your negative thoughts and substituting positive ones.


Will you be waiting for negative thoughts to come along to think something positive? Add to this skill by making a conscious and planned effort to think positive thoughts throughout the day. Decide that you will think only positive thoughts for your entire lunch hour or during one of your breaks. Decide that you will only think positive thoughts while driving in your car or while riding the train/bus. Create times in your day when you will be “positive only”. This will give you even more practice at being positive and happy.

My question to you: How do YOU boost your happiness on a daily basis? Have you tried thinking positively on a conscious level everyday? Share your thoughts, questions and wisdom in the comments below. I’d love to read what you think.

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Finding Your Passion


A really good friend of mine is always saying “when you love what you do, you never have to work a day in your life”. It’s a mantra and quote that has stuck with me for many years now and words of wisdom I live by and have imparted to my kids and clients alike. The way I see it is you have at least two choices. You find your bliss or passion in a career or hobby and you go for it or you find a way to be passionate about your current career.

Here are some strategies to help you find your passion:

1. Satisfaction Check – Look at each area of your life and determine your level of satisfaction with each area. You should consider your career, finances, health and wellness, relationship with your significant other, family and friends, personal growth and development, physical surroundings, fun and recreation and anything else that is important to you. I like to rate each area on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the highest level of satisfaction (your bliss) and 1 being a low or no level of satisfaction. Then I suggest taking a good hard look at each area to analyze the gap. Determine what would have to happen or change for the gap to be reduced or eliminated. For example: If you rated your career a 7 out of 10. What would make your satisfaction level with your career a 10? Perhaps more clients, less travel time to work, a better relationship with your boss, etc. Once you’ve identified all the items that could make a difference in your level of satisfaction you need to commit to action. Taking even one action will move you one step closer to a higher level of satisfaction in that area of your life.

2. Values Check – Know what’s important to you. Being really clear about your values and what’s most important to you helps you make better decisions more often. Make a list of what’s most important to you in your life right now. Then rank everything on the list from highest priority to lowest priority. Take a really close look at your top 5 values. These are your most important values. How closely aligned are these top 5 values to how you spend your time day to day? What have you been neglecting that’s really important to you? Many successful people put as much time and thought into what they do in their time away from the office as they do in the office. Can you make connections between what you do for a living and what’s important to you? For example: perhaps you have an expensive hobby you are passionate about i.e. race car driving or flying planes. You are in a high paying career that you perhaps don’t love but it provides you with the time and money to race cars or fly planes. Find ways to love your work or at least be grateful for your career as it is providing you with the means to follow your passion of racing cars or flying planes-there is a connection to your values, there is a sense of purpose.

3. Competencies Check – Before leaving my corporate career of 26 years to start my own business, I did some planning and strategizing to determine the type of business I wanted to be in. In the business world it is common to conduct a SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats). Applying this same management tool can be very effective when applied personally. Start with an assessment of your personal strengths and weaknesses. What are you really good at? What aren’t you so good at? Engage others to provide you with feedback in these areas as well. You may be surprised by hidden talents you have taken for granted or haven’t been using. Consider opportunities available to you today to utilize and optimize your strengths. For example: There are careers and businesses in existence today that weren’t around 26 years ago when I first started my professional career. The world is constantly changing and evolving and so are the opportunities. Look for the opportunities or create some new ones. As for threats, it’s important to recognize that they do exist and to plan to minimize or mitigate any risks.

4. Mindset Check – Lastly, it’s important to recognize that no one or one thing can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy!

Based on my experience as a career coach I have found that many people find it easier to be accountable to someone else than it is to be accountable to oneself. A coach can support you by working with you to help you find your passion, determine your career and life goals and then hold you accountable every step of the way.


Linda Cattelan is a Professional & Life Coach, Certified Trainer & Master Practitioner of NLP and a Contributing Author of The Power of Women United an inspirational book on networking. If you are interested in learning more about closing the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in any area of your life, join our mailing list at http://www.resultscatalyst.ca/?page=newsletter Receive valuable information on these topics and regular updates about upcoming events and workshops.

Take all the control

“That’s in charge?” 10 ways to start taking control (time administration, goal setting, record monitoring)
At initial glance, it would certainly seem that hopefulness as well as Attention Insufficiency Disorder (ADD) have nothing at all to do with one an additional. Yet numerous of us with ADD develop bad reasoning patterns given that we become disappointed by our obstacles and frequent feelings of being confused. This adverse outlook then makes it even harder for us to handle those difficulties as well as move forward.

Practicing hopefulness allows people with ADD to concentrate on our durabilities and also achievements, which enhances happiness and also drive. This, in turn, permits us to devote even more time acting, as well as less time feeling down and also stuck. The subsequent ideas give good pointers that you can easily use to aid you move in to even more positive thinking designs:

1. Take Good Treatment of Yourself
It’s much easier to be beneficial when you are eating well, exercising, and also obtaining sufficient remainder.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don’t seem very as bad when you are frequently reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking merely 60 seconds a day to stop and value the good things will definitely make a big distinction.

3. Look for the Proof As an alternative of Making Presumptions
An anxiety of not looking like or accepted in some cases leads us to suppose that we know what others are thinking, however our worries are normally not fact. If you have a fear that a good friend or loved one’s bad mood is because of something you did, or that your co-workers are covertly gossiping regarding you when you turn your back, speak up and also ask them. Do not lose time fretting that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to stress over.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever before advised a partner “You’re CONSISTENTLY late!” or whined to a pal “You NEVER EVER call me!”? Believing as well as talking in absolutes like ‘always’ and also ‘never ever’ makes the scenario seem worse compared to it is, as well as shows your mind into thinking that specific individuals are incapable of providing.

5. Detach From Negative Notions
Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you see yourself having a bad thought, detach from it, witness it, and also do not follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”
In his manual “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” PHYSICIAN Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Bad Notions. These are the bad notions that are typically reactionary, like “Those individuals are giggling, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wishes to see me? It must be bad!” When you observe these thoughts, recognize that they are nothing more than ANTs and also squash them!

7. Method Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Family and friends)
You do not need to be a professional to understand the conveniences of a really good caress. Positive physical contact with buddies, loved ones, and even pets, is an immediate pick-me-up. One analysis study on this subject matter had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She got greater tips from these customers compared to from the ones she didn’t touch!

8. Enhance Your Social Activity
By increasing social task, you decrease lonesomeness. Surround yourself with healthy and balanced, delighted individuals, and their good power will definitely influence you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for a Company, or Assist another Person
Every person feels really good after assisting. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your websites. The more good power you put out in to the planet, the even more you will definitely receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Battle Rumination
If you locate on your own ruminating, a great way to quit it is to suspend the design as well as pressure on your own to do something entirely various. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something bad. It’s certainly never efficient, given that it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s simply excessive concern. Attempt altering your physical setting – select a walk or rest outside. You could even call a good friend, take up a handbook, or turn on some music.

When it involves the business field, process is basically the religious beliefs. To believe the points needed to do are the fundamentals of efficiency, but interaction and also having a stable thoughts composes the whole entire thing to correct efficiency. There are those who appear to operate well also under stress, however they’re unusual ones and we are individual as well as patchy. To get these little things like tension under our skins won’t address our complications. In some cases it takes a bit of courage to accept that we’re relying on be workaholics than advise our own selves that we’re not doing our best.