Reinforcing Self Esteem at Home

Your home should be a place of peace and refuge where you can find rest and solace in order to recharge from the events of the day.  This refuge is especially important when it comes to reinforcing your self esteem.  Each day, our self esteem suffers from drastic blows from friends, family members, coworkers, spouses, children, school mates, or even perfect strangers

Instead of allowing yourself to become entrenched in feelings of self loathing or self doubt, take time to reinforce your self esteem in the comfort and privacy of your own home.  Know that you home is a refuge for your body, mind, and spirit so that you can devote the necessary attention to yourself.

 

When dealing with reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home, consider creating a space that is only for you.  Take a private corner, cozy niche, or spare room and create your own private oasis.  Each individual will have a different idea of an area that is totally relaxing, calming, and reenergizing to him or her.  Maybe you see a sparse Asian-inspired area where you can practice your tai chi and meditation in order to rebuild and replenish your spirit.  Perhaps your idea of a private sanctuary is a plot of land where you work in tune with nature to care for terrific plants of all species and types.  Maybe your private oasis is a cozy reading nook filled with books, a comfortable chair, and good quality reading light.  Whatever your space looks like, ensure it is made especially for you.  Instruct your spouse, children, siblings, family members, or roommates to avoid your special space so that you can maintain the personal and private feeling.  Also, instruct anyone who shares you home not to bother you while you are in your personal oasis.  Attempt to create an atmosphere absent of distractions like the telephone, computer, or television.

 

Other ways to reinforce your self esteem while at home may seem silly or trivial, but will make your feel better about yourself and your strengths.  Leave a message for yourself or a family member every morning on the bathroom member.  Include compliments and praise in this message in order to reinforce your own or another person’s self esteem.  If you live with someone else, take turns leaving each other notes so that you can both assist each other in this task.  Also, place tokens or items that remind you of your achievements in prominent places around your home.  These tokens can include ribbons, trophies, certificates, rewards, photographs, or special memorabilia from an important time in your life.  Ensure these items are in a place that you are sure to see daily.  Your refrigerator door is a great place to post self esteem boosting items, since you are sure to visit the fridge at least once a day.  Additionally, the bathroom mirror is an excellent spot since most individuals will at least take one glimpse in the mirror before leaving for the day.

 

An excellent way to reinforce your self esteem is to praise yourself for goals accomplished.  Even something as simple as losing a couple pounds should be celebrated in order for the accomplishment of the goal to become a reality.  When you accomplish a large goal that you worked very diligently to work towards, plan a party.  This is an excellent idea to plan a festive event in order to celebrate with your friends and family members.  Your self esteem is sure to be boosted after a fabulous party thrown in your honor!  These tips are excellent methods to reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home.

Tips To Increase Your Self Esteem And Confidence

Whenever one is beset by a situation that he or she is unsure of – facing someone admired, having to perform in front of an audience, or simply talking to others – he or she is facing a goodly amount of stress. Confident people are usually able to face these situations without blinking; but the rest of us will probably melt away and try to run away from the situation.

For most people facing this kind of low self-esteem, these situations present an opportunity for them to make fools out of themselves. This is a very embarrassing prospect.

If you are one of the millions of people that would like to stop fidgeting in front of others, trying to squirrel out of such situations, and being so unsure of yourself when facing presentations, here are a few tips to set you on your way.

1. Competence is Confidence – Some organizations, like the Toastmasters, help those afraid to speak in public toughen up by stressing this credo – and it really works. One secret to confidence and self-esteem is to be able to trust what you are able to do. This comes with a lot of practice and study. Whenever you practice a given skill, you increase your own confidence in your capability to perform even in front of other people.

Before a big presentation, study up. Try to know everything about the topic before you step in front of the audience. If you have practiced way before the presentation, you will be in a better position to knock their socks off.

Practicing in front of supportive people you trust will help you get feedback on how to improve your performance.

2. Believe in Yourself – One of the reasons people are not confident in themselves is the fact that they are already convinced that they will fail even before anything happens. Never underestimate the power of the mind. If you believe you will fail, you indeed will! A better exercise would to be to believe that you can succeed. Set your mind towards succeeding and you probably will!

3. Take Criticisms, whether Good or Bad – Most people are bad at taking criticisms. Instead of taking the criticisms personally, use every comment and suggestion to make yourself better. However, you will also have to look out for some criticisms that were never meant to benefit you. Ignore them and move on.

4. Remain Calm at All Costs – Panicking never benefited anybody. If you are suddenly in a situation where you are unsure of what to do or what will happen, keep your composure. If you don’t know the answer, say so calmly. If you do not know what to do, it would not be bad to admit it. However, beneath your cool fa

Building Your Child’s Self Esteem

 

It’s one of those things that all parents want to provide for their children and one of those things that many feel they do not know how to do: raise a self-confident child. Self-esteem oftentimes seems like a fragile, distant thing that we all know what it is but don’t know how to develop. Your self-esteem is a compilation of how you feel about yourself. It encompasses everything from your confidence in relationships, to your body image, to your work life. So how do you foster this “thing” in your children?

 

We teach our children “honesty is the best policy.” This applies to how we deal with our children as much as it does expecting them to be honest with us. When it comes to your child’s self-esteem, he or she will know or be able to sense if you are not being honest. For example, if art is not your child’s top skill, don’t say that his or her drawing is the best you’ve ever seen. Your child will know it’s not, and will not believe you the next time you say something meant to be positive, no matter how honest it is. Instead, tell your child something genuine about the piece or the effort. Make non-judgmental statements such as, “You really used your imagination in making the flowers many different colors.” This simply states your observation, rather than a false statement.

 

Also, understand that your child and your child’s behavior are two separate things. This can be very hard to remember, particularly when your child is acting out in ways that make you crazy or that are unsafe. However, when you discipline your child for the behavior rather than the person, you can positively influence and foster self esteem. Why? If your child feels that you are mad, because of who he or she is as a person rather than for the behavior, this can negatively affect your child’s self-esteem. Using “I” statements helps with this. Say something like, “I don’t like it when you leave your toys scattered all over the floor,” which also addresses the behavior, rather than, “You are a slob,” which attacks their character.

 

Let your child make some decisions. Children are in a situation where everyone else is constantly telling them what to do, when to do it, where to go, and more. When children are allowed to make some choices, even if it’s something small, they learn to be self-reliant. You don’t want your children growing up feeling dependent on others for direction. Simple choices such as what to wear (you can offer two or three choices) or choosing a special lunch item will foster your child’s being able to think independently.

 

Encourage your children to try new things. While there’s nothing wrong with encouraging your child’s talents–this will help build self-confidence as well–it’s also important that your children learn to experiment. Trying new things helps everyone overcome fears of the unknown and helps us learn to deal with success and failure. If a child never learns to try new things, this can create problems later in life. After all, most people do not live in world where everything is the same day after day. Life is constantly changing, whether it’s a move to a new city or starting a new career. If children are experienced at trying new things, even if small, life’s bigger transitions will be much easier–such as leaving for college and starting a career.