Reinforcing Self Esteem at Home

Your home should be a place of peace and refuge where you can find rest and solace in order to recharge from the events of the day.  This refuge is especially important when it comes to reinforcing your self esteem.  Each day, our self esteem suffers from drastic blows from friends, family members, coworkers, spouses, children, school mates, or even perfect strangers

Instead of allowing yourself to become entrenched in feelings of self loathing or self doubt, take time to reinforce your self esteem in the comfort and privacy of your own home.  Know that you home is a refuge for your body, mind, and spirit so that you can devote the necessary attention to yourself.

 

When dealing with reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home, consider creating a space that is only for you.  Take a private corner, cozy niche, or spare room and create your own private oasis.  Each individual will have a different idea of an area that is totally relaxing, calming, and reenergizing to him or her.  Maybe you see a sparse Asian-inspired area where you can practice your tai chi and meditation in order to rebuild and replenish your spirit.  Perhaps your idea of a private sanctuary is a plot of land where you work in tune with nature to care for terrific plants of all species and types.  Maybe your private oasis is a cozy reading nook filled with books, a comfortable chair, and good quality reading light.  Whatever your space looks like, ensure it is made especially for you.  Instruct your spouse, children, siblings, family members, or roommates to avoid your special space so that you can maintain the personal and private feeling.  Also, instruct anyone who shares you home not to bother you while you are in your personal oasis.  Attempt to create an atmosphere absent of distractions like the telephone, computer, or television.

 

Other ways to reinforce your self esteem while at home may seem silly or trivial, but will make your feel better about yourself and your strengths.  Leave a message for yourself or a family member every morning on the bathroom member.  Include compliments and praise in this message in order to reinforce your own or another person’s self esteem.  If you live with someone else, take turns leaving each other notes so that you can both assist each other in this task.  Also, place tokens or items that remind you of your achievements in prominent places around your home.  These tokens can include ribbons, trophies, certificates, rewards, photographs, or special memorabilia from an important time in your life.  Ensure these items are in a place that you are sure to see daily.  Your refrigerator door is a great place to post self esteem boosting items, since you are sure to visit the fridge at least once a day.  Additionally, the bathroom mirror is an excellent spot since most individuals will at least take one glimpse in the mirror before leaving for the day.

 

An excellent way to reinforce your self esteem is to praise yourself for goals accomplished.  Even something as simple as losing a couple pounds should be celebrated in order for the accomplishment of the goal to become a reality.  When you accomplish a large goal that you worked very diligently to work towards, plan a party.  This is an excellent idea to plan a festive event in order to celebrate with your friends and family members.  Your self esteem is sure to be boosted after a fabulous party thrown in your honor!  These tips are excellent methods to reinforcing your self esteem in the comfort of your own home.

Grow Your Self Esteem With These 4 Tips

Most of us could use a bit of a self-esteem boost every once in a while.

Self-esteem is all about how we feel about ourselves. When we have low self-esteem, we can be at risk for depression, we can be more prone to tolerating abusive behavior and relationships, and we can fail to live up to our true potential.

 

There can also be cons to self-esteem. For example, when a person’s sense of self worth is much too high, it can turn into arrogance or what is termed ‘narcissism’, and this can create problems. Such people can find it difficult to accept and learn from their own mistakes and can develop a false sense of entitlement.

Developing a balanced level of self-esteem is very important. For some, a healthy, high self-esteem develops naturally. But for others, developing a healthy self-esteem takes more work. Check out the following pointers to give your self-esteem a kick start.

1. Draw up a list of your good qualities – For some individuals with really low self-esteem, even contemplating making a list of their good qualities seems like an overwhelming task, but it can be extremely helpful for boosting self-esteem. If you find this task challenging, consider what other people say about you. What positive compliments have you ever been given? Start with those and then expand on this. Jot your good qualities down using “I” and the present tense. For example, “I am a kind and generous person.”

2. Regular affirmations – Take another peek at the list you made. Choose your favorite qualities to use to do regular affirmations. Take those statements and jot them down on notecards and stickie notes. Stick the notes where you will notice them everyday, such as on your computer screen, mirror, or refrigerator. When you see them, take a minute to repeat them several times to yourself. Place notecards in your pocket or wallet where you are sure to come across them on a regular basis. When this happens, take a moment to read them to yourself a few times. After a while you can change out some of your best qualities for some of the other qualities on your list.

3. Gain some perspective – People often don’t talk about their challenges, failures, and struggles in life, but that’s not because they don’t have them. How we decide to approach these things will directly influence levels of self-esteem, happiness and success. The most successful and confident people in life aren’t those who have had few problems and challenges, they are those who have seen them as just a part of life and have pushed ahead anyway, learning as they go. Your failures don’t mean that you are a failure, they just mean you need to reassess the situation and the way you approach it and come at it from another angle.

4. Make yourself the priority – Part of boosting your self-worth is accepting you are worthy of your own love. Make time for yourself. Take care of yourself when you’re passing through a difficult time. Say ‘no’ when you have to and don’t feel bad about it. Make your needs clear to other people and ask for what you need. (If you have real difficulty saying ‘no’, then look for some assertiveness training, or get a book on the subject.)

Employ these 4 simple tips and you will be well on your way to boosting your self-esteem. Above all, remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself just as much love as you give to the important people in your life. You absolutely deserve it!

Author
Peter Field is the author of ‘The Chi of Change’ hypnotherapy book. Information of 1-2-1 sessions can be found on his hypnotherapy in Birmingham website.