What is coaching and how can it help you?

Are you thinking about embarking on coaching and not sure how it can help you?

Coaching is a partnership designed to help you unlock your potential to maximise your performance, learning and growth.

Depending on what you need and what is important to you, coaching can help you build self-awareness, insight, confidence and skills in order to create positive changes and results in your personal or professional life. People who have experienced coaching report discovering new perspectives, making better decisions and achieving sustainable performance as a result of coaching.

Coaching is a collaborative relationship formed between coach and coachee for the purpose of attaining professional or personal development outcomes…valued by the coachee (Grant et al, 2010).

In essence coaching is a collaborative, dynamic relationship, with your coach acting as your champion, supporter, thinking partner and guide. It is a relationship built on purpose, trust, personal accountability and hope. Your coach supports you by listening deeply, asking questions and giving feedback that will help you to identify and focus on what you really want to achieve and how you are going to get there. A coach is not there to tell you what to do or how to get there, because that won’t help you develop your own skills or pathways. Her focus is to help you develop your own capabilities, resources and solutions so you can learn how to successfully navigate your environment and create sustainable success. Your role in coaching is to act on the insights you experience during coaching and put in focussed and consistent effort to make positive changes in your life.

Coaching is different from counselling. Many coaches have counselling skills, so they can help you tackle difficult issues and offer an empathic ear. Skilled coaches are trained to help you proactively manage the impact of your thinking, behaviour and emotions so you can develop more effective strategies to move forward. However, if therapy or psychological support is more appropriate for you now they will advise you to seek the support of a qualified mental health professional.

Good coaches draw on robust training, evidence-based practice, diverse expertise and their own experience in achieving personal and professional growth. They can have backgrounds in psychology/counselling, health/wellness, consulting, human resources, education/training, sports/performance, business or entrepreneurship and hold relevant and specific training that enable them to work flexibly with each person and their emerging needs.

As coaching requires commitment and work from both coach and coachee, people who get the most from coaching have a fierce desire for learning and growth. Coaching requires an open mindset and willingness to share and engage in honest, open conversations. Motivation to do the work, readiness to be coached and a supportive environment, along with good chemistry with your coach, are the strongest factors in achieving successful outcomes in coaching. Identifying a clear purpose or desired outcomes for coaching will also help you determine if coaching is right for you, what approach will suit you best and how you might measure success.

Sophie Francis is a business, brand and life coach. She draws on a background in positive psychology, leadership development and mind-body studies to help people navigate and create new pathways in their life and work. She has a Master of Business Coaching and is a member of the International Coach Federation. Visit www.sophiefrancis.com.
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Are you thinking about embarking on coaching and not sure how it can help you? Coaching is a partnership designed to help you unlock your potential to maximise your performance, learning and growth.

Positive Thinking And Its Effect On Your Health

The first situation to consider is the relationship between thoughts and conditions like depression and stress. A crucial question is whether the person’s thoughts are creating the physical depression or the physical depression is creating the negative thinking. When it comes to how you can use your mind to help, this can be accomplished consciously and subconsciously. When someone has a habit of imagining things turning out very badly, rational thinking can show show them that they often exaggerate. However, the unconscious mind is much more powerful in shaping our habitual behavior, oftentimes beyond our conscious control. Visualization and hypnosis can be very effective in modifying beliefs and, if you do this, the long-lasting effects can be more powerful than using logic only.

It is likewise true that positive thinking can have an impact on our physical health, and you may be aware of the placebo effect on people who feel ill. This is when individuals are given a pill which in reality does not have any healing value, and yet they claim to notice an improvement in how they feel. This is evidence of the connection between mind and body, and there are many examples of men and women with a positive outlook being able to recover faster from malady and injury. You can also use the power of your mind to help you in achieving your fitness goals. A historic example of this is when the four minute barrier for running the mile was broken, which had been considered as unachievable up to that point. Once the “barrier” had been broken, other runners also began to break through what had really been a barrier of belief.

The effects of aging are likewise influenced by how we think about the process. As you get older, do you talk to your friends about your “aches and pains” and your weakened capabilities? It seems there’s a great deal of truth to the saying, “You’re only as old as you think you are,” and our thoughts can be used to undo a lot of the so-called effects of aging. Unfortunately, numerous individuals will continue to hold on to old beliefs about the unavoidable “decline” of health in old age, and not pay attention to the benefits of a positive outlook.

Now that you are aware that your attitude can bring you a much better state of health, it’s up to you to take advantage of this information and set your intention to think positive thoughts whenever you remember.

“What Really Makes You Tick?” 10 questions you should ask to yourself: a preparation to self-improvement

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?
Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.