Everything that you “know” about living your life your way is probably wrong, and that’s okay. After all, you can only go by the things that you’ve learned in your experience and education.
but what you learned probably didn’t help you to gain a healthy body. You probably studied about the great people of history, but you probably never learned how to live by the principles which made great.
Most important, you probably learned how to count money and to make a change, but chances are you don’t know as much as you’d like to about earning good money and building wealth.
The rules which you learned to live your life according to aren’t producing the results you really want.
As depressing as this might seem, it’s actually a very good place to start when it comes to fulfilling your dreams and becoming your best self.
Why is this?
Know and Become Who You Really Are:- what does it really mean to become your best self? What if you’ve never been this person before? What standard do you use to determine what characteristics to shoot for? How do you know if you’re aiming to high… or too low?
How do you even know who your best self is or how you can become that person?
The answer is that becoming your best self is more about getting rid of things which are in the way.
Think about this, becoming who you really are should never feel forced or awkward. Instead, it will feel completely natural in every way. You’ll feel at home in your own skin. You’ll no longer feel that you’re an imposter who’s trying to “fake it till they make it.”
But it starts with understanding the things which are keeping you from discovering your true self. Let’s look at a few of them:
#Other People’s Opinions
Everyone has opinions about the way that things should be, and that’s okay. But you should never feel that your life and your choices are at the mercy of other people’s opinions. As you’re reading this, you can probably think of at least a few people who have an opinion about who you should be or what you should do with your life.
Sometimes these opinions are negative, and sometimes they are positive. But one thing is certain…
These opinions have nothing to do with who you really are.
They simply represent people who are realizing their own perception of you. At times, these opinions can be positive. But if they aren’t a genuine representation of who you honestly believe that you are, they can be a hindrance towards you becoming your best self.
#Your Weaknesses and Doubts
Everyone has things about themselves which give them doubts, just as they have things which they are confident about. Everyone also has things which they don’t do so well, just as they have things that they do well. The person you become in life is dependent upon whether or not you focus on your strengths or your weaknesses.
Yes, it’s important that you examine the areas of your character that you need to change in order to get what you want. But it’s better to focus on a specific plan of action for correcting the weakness than to focus on the weakness itself.
Think of it like this: if you’re constantly focusing on masking your weaknesses and insecurities or feeling ashamed, it’s as if you’re placing a magnifying glass over them. As this happens, they become the predominating thoughts in your mind until they begin to affect your self-image and your beliefs. Those beliefs affect your actions and those actions create your results and lifestyle.
#Your Current Results
As you’re considering the fact that your thoughts create your beliefs and your self-image, that your beliefs influence your actions, and that you’re actions form your lifestyle and identity, it might be easy to feel bad about yourself if you’re not happy with your current results.
But it’s important to remember that the current circumstances of your life are a representation of who you were, not who you are. If you begin today to focus on becoming a different person, you can be certain that your current results will change, but first you have to let go of the idea that those results represent who you are.
In fact, it’s important that you don’t ever allow the exterior circumstances of your life to fine your self-image and identity. If you do, you’re self image and confidence will vacillate just as the circumstances of your life do. Better to develop a rock solid self-image based on a standard which you and you alone determine.
This will help you to endure any difficulty in your life and keep your actions consistent with your true values instead of allowing them to be influenced by circumstances.
#Decide What YOU Really Want
Sit down and make a list of what you really want in your financial life, your health, your relationships and your career. Don’t stop for a second to think about how you are going to achieve these things, that’s not the purpose of this exercise.
The purpose of this exercise is to build self understanding based on what YOU really want to life. As you do this, you’ll discover that your deepest desires are the most accurate representation of what’s in your heart. So the better your understanding of them is, the better you’re going to get to know your best self.
As you do this, it’s important to be honest. Don’t worry about what other people might think…again, that’s not your problem. Don’t worry if others believe that your dreams are: stupid, unrealistic, selfish or immoral.
#Decide What You’re Going to Give in Return for It
You’re never going to get something for nothing. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something. As you’re determining what you want in your financial life, your health, your relationships and your career it’s important that you decide what you’re going to get in return for it.
If you’re dreams are big in any of these areas, your commitment to taking action must be equally big. If not, you’ll end up falling short of your goal or you’ll reach it only to find that you can’t keep it.
#Write Out a Plan of Action
This step is very simple, but most people never bother with it because they think that it’s enough to know what they want. It’s not enough. Sit down and write out a specific plan of action as to how you’re going to make the changes you need to make in order to get what you want.
As a part of your overall plan, include the thought exercises from the previous chapter. This will help you to become the person who you need to become in order to get what you want.
#Start Taking Action NOW
There’s no such thing as tomorrow when it comes to getting what you want. You have to take action, and the only time that you can take action is right now. You can think about tomorrow and you can dream about tomorrow, but that’s all that you can ever do with tomorrow. The same is true with the past.
If you’ve gotten into the habit of putting things off until later, you’ve allowed yourself to neglect one immutable law of success:
Nothing happens without action, and action can only happen right now.
If you have a habit of indecision or procrastination, just remind yourself of this every time the temptation comes to put things off: there is no later. There is only now, anything short of this and you qualify as a dreamer.
By Kanti Kashyap