I am especially sure or perhaps just situation-ally sure, now and again more and still at different times not as much. To such an extent that you that you invest a considerable measure of energy pondering picking up bits of knowledge into securing increasingly certainty and the inner discourse goes on. Living in this day and age of fake it till you make it, you will think that its simple to spot individuals who are arrogant, spotting genuinely certain individuals is a considerable measure harder however.
Certainty is Not Bravado
Certainty is not grandiosity by any stretch of creative energy, it is not swagger either or an obvious misrepresentation of valiance so far as that is concerned. You would be all wrong to call it strong, brash demeanor or the like of self – conviction coordinated at numerous others. It is a tranquil and characteristic articulation of your aptitude, capacity and self respect.
Guzzle Great Qualities
Over the span of your vocation you work in an assortment of parts and callings, you more likely than not go over various sure individuals and recognizing them by the basic qualities they share would have urged you to assimilate some of those qualities. We should observe few of them.
Spot Confident People
You can spot certain individuals when they stand firm, for when they do it is not for the way that they think they are constantly right, despite what might be expected they are never hesitant to not be right however and feel no disgrace in conceding the actuality.
Calm And Unassuming
Genuinely certain individuals listen more than they talk, they are tranquil and unassuming and don’t feel the need to gloat at all which is a sign of shakiness. These individuals dependably attempt and give other individuals the opportunity to simply ahead and introspect and be keen also. They perform this by asking open finished inquiries.
Never Hog The Limelight
Such individuals don’t have any slant of hoarding the spotlight, rather they guarantee it sparkles on others. All the time they bear real obligations, overcome significant deterrents, and have the interesting ability of transforming a diverse accumulation of different people into an inconceivable group which pulls up all the fittings with regards to execution.
They never bashful from requesting help. They know it exceptionally well that it is not understood as an indication of shortcoming regarding ability, information and experience, as they are secure in their being.
Sure individuals don’t hold up unreasonably, they know about the general get to and bridle online networking and so forth to build fresher systems and connections, they diagram their own way and take after the fitting course, subsequently they can proceed onward to better things. They never at any point put other individuals down .
By Rinki Gupta
It is well documented that many people fail to achieve their goals in life due to the phenomenon known as “fear of failure” but are you aware that a major factor that is often overlooked, is a state known as “fear of success”?
Fear of failure will lead many people into inertia – the inability to make decision or take action in case they receive rejection or negative outcomes. This mental state is fairky easy to identify and there are many tools in the personal development industry to help combat this plague and reprogram the mind for success. However, the fear of success is much more subtle, harder to spot and also harder to eradicate.
Perhaps you have this tendency in your life. Here are some indications of a fear of success mentality.
Studying and trying to implement self-improvement techniques and/or personal development tools but your life does not improve or may even get worse.
You settle for less than you feel you deserve or are capable of achieving.
You start new projects full of enthusiasm and optimism but wane in your efforts or stop short before you have completed them.
You expect things to go wrong no matter how well the situation appears to be at the moment.
Can you identify your own patterns in the any of the above statements?
The fear of success can also make you behave in ways that hold you back. Look at the list below. These are ethe symptoms of the fear of success.
Procrastination – putting off what needs to be done or not doing what you know will bring you closer to your desired result. Everyone suffers from this inner ‘demon’ at some point in their lives (although some of us suffer from it more than others!).
Procrastination is a ‘success killer’! How can ou expect to reach your destinationm if you do not take steps towards it? Strive to do little things each day that will bring you small steps closer to your goal. This is why having a personal development plan is an essential ingredient in the fight against procrastination. Take action! Any action! Refine your steps as you go along but do not sit and do nothing. Taking action is one of the key aspects in personal development.
Can’t see the forest for the trees! – this is almost the opposite of procrastination but has the same effect on your personal development. The aforementioned saying is well known but have you ever given it real consideration?
Don’t get caught up in your plan believing that it is more important than the materialised goal! For many years I got caught in this trap. I started to think and act as though my plan was more important than my end result and thus missed many opportunities to alter my path and reach my goals more quickly! Let go of your ego and allow the Universe to show you a quicker route to your goal. Remain flexible.
Thinking that the time is not right – have you ever waited until the timing was perfect before starting a venture? Have you ever waited until you had more information on a better plan?
Again ACTION is the key to the door to success. Taking small steps forward are better than taking none or waiting to see if your foot is landing on the right spot! Even if your actions take you away from your goal you have at least gained insight and knowledge about what does not work!
Being a perfectionist – this is similar to the point above and has the same effect, namely, that you never really move forward. No matter how good a job is when its finished it can always be improved! I have heard many great musicians tell how they hate listening to their own songs because they can find a million things that need improved. Yet, we still enjoy them. I think a classic example of this is “Bridge Over Troubled Water” by Paul Simon. This song is hauntingly beautiful yet Mr. Simon does not think its good enough!
Seeing only problems – how do you use your focus? Do you constantly see only and alll the problems involved? If you are this way inclined it is pointless trying to change overnight! However, you can use this mindset to your advantage while you strive in your personal development to acquire an opportunistic frame of mind instead.
“How can you use seeing only problems to my advantage?” you say. “Easily”, is my reply! Look at the problems and prepare a plan to deal with them. Everytime you overcome one congratulate yourself. Use them as a gauge for your achievements. If you keep seeing more problems remind yourself of how well you dealt with the others. Look at how far you have come! If you see a problem ask yourself, “how best can I overcome this challenge?” or “how quickly can I rectify this situation?”. The quality of your questions are important as I have outlined in a previous article. Use the problems as fact finders. Is there a real problem now? If so then deal with it. Is it a potential problem? If so then create a contingency plan in case it does occur but don’t get caught up in it just be prepared.
Enjoy the journey, follow the above guidelines and you will achieve success. Eventually your fear of success will dissipate and you will have moved a long way forward in your personal development.
Got a Dream? Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK than achieving other, seemingly easier goals. Why is that so? Because it is much, much harder to work for to achieve a dream we don’t passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused on what is naturally a passionate interest. your work becomes play.
Is Your Dream a Good Fit?
Hopefully you have invested some thought clarifying your dream … and you know exactly what you want. If that is the case. why not take a few minutes to ask yourself an important question — am I pursuing the right dream and goal for ME?
Here is why that is so important: You will never really achieve your true potential as long as you pour your energy into something that does not really fit your true passions and interests! Does that seem too simple?
Think about it. It is often very easy to automatically adopt someone elses goal. We were trained to do that very thing as children.
Ninty-nine percent of us were fully expected to achieve the goals our parents and educational system set out for us. Some of us gave in and tried to comply. Some of us rebelled and learned to fail instead. And some of us felt somehow inadequate because we did not have the natural interest and/or aptitude to do what we were expected to do.
If you find you never seem to achieve your goals, you may be setting goals you don’t really desire or believe in for yourself.
This is never going to lead to success. What leads to is one false start after another… and a tendency to want to quit after the first bump in the road. This is a major dead-end, and will do nothing but gradually erode your self confidence.
PURSUE AN APPROPRIATE DREAM
Three things will happen if you make the effort to refocus yourself around a dream and supporting goal that is more in keeping with your natural talents and passions:
First, you will be happier, less stressed, and far more productive.
Second, you will be more likely to hang in when you hit those jarring bumps in the road.
Put your goal to the test. Does it truly “measure up” to your innermost desires?Now … ask yourself this question: What do you have to do NOW to get what you want.
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