Are You Afraid Of Success ?

It is well documented that many people fail to achieve their goals in life due to the phenomenon known as “fear of failure” but are you aware that a major factor that is often overlooked, is a state known as “fear of success”?

Fear of failure will lead many people into inertia – the inability to make decision or take action in case they receive rejection or negative outcomes. This mental state is fairky easy to identify and there are many tools in the personal development industry to help combat this plague and reprogram the mind for success. However, the fear of success is much more subtle, harder to spot and also harder to eradicate.

Perhaps you have this tendency in your life. Here are some indications of a fear of success mentality.

Studying and trying to implement self-improvement techniques and/or personal development tools but your life does not improve or may even get worse.

You settle for less than you feel you deserve or are capable of achieving.

You start new projects full of enthusiasm and optimism but wane in your efforts or stop short before you have completed them.

You expect things to go wrong no matter how well the situation appears to be at the moment.

Can you identify your own patterns in the any of the above statements?

The fear of success can also make you behave in ways that hold you back. Look at the list below. These are ethe symptoms of the fear of success.

Procrastination – putting off what needs to be done or not doing what you know will bring you closer to your desired result. Everyone suffers from this inner ‘demon’ at some point in their lives (although some of us suffer from it more than others!).

Procrastination is a ‘success killer’! How can ou expect to reach your destinationm if you do not take steps towards it? Strive to do little things each day that will bring you small steps closer to your goal. This is why having a personal development plan is an essential ingredient in the fight against procrastination. Take action! Any action! Refine your steps as you go along but do not sit and do nothing. Taking action is one of the key aspects in personal development.

Can’t see the forest for the trees! – this is almost the opposite of procrastination but has the same effect on your personal development. The aforementioned saying is well known but have you ever given it real consideration?

Don’t get caught up in your plan believing that it is more important than the materialised goal! For many years I got caught in this trap. I started to think and act as though my plan was more important than my end result and thus missed many opportunities to alter my path and reach my goals more quickly! Let go of your ego and allow the Universe to show you a quicker route to your goal. Remain flexible.

Thinking that the time is not right – have you ever waited until the timing was perfect before starting a venture? Have you ever waited until you had more information on a better plan?

Again ACTION is the key to the door to success. Taking small steps forward are better than taking none or waiting to see if your foot is landing on the right spot! Even if your actions take you away from your goal you have at least gained insight and knowledge about what does not work!

Being a perfectionist – this is similar to the point above and has the same effect, namely, that you never really move forward. No matter how good a job is when its finished it can always be improved! I have heard many great musicians tell how they hate listening to their own songs because they can find a million things that need improved. Yet, we still enjoy them. I think a classic example of this is “Bridge Over Troubled Water” by Paul Simon. This song is hauntingly beautiful yet Mr. Simon does not think its good enough!

Seeing only problems – how do you use your focus? Do you constantly see only and alll the problems involved? If you are this way inclined it is pointless trying to change overnight! However, you can use this mindset to your advantage while you strive in your personal development to acquire an opportunistic frame of mind instead.

“How can you use seeing only problems to my advantage?” you say. “Easily”, is my reply! Look at the problems and prepare a plan to deal with them. Everytime you overcome one congratulate yourself. Use them as a gauge for your achievements. If you keep seeing more problems remind yourself of how well you dealt with the others. Look at how far you have come! If you see a problem ask yourself, “how best can I overcome this challenge?” or “how quickly can I rectify this situation?”. The quality of your questions are important as I have outlined in a previous article. Use the problems as fact finders. Is there a real problem now? If so then deal with it. Is it a potential problem? If so then create a contingency plan in case it does occur but don’t get caught up in it just be prepared.

Enjoy the journey, follow the above guidelines and you will achieve success. Eventually your fear of success will dissipate and you will have moved a long way forward in your personal development.

Reach Your Dreams

Got a Dream? Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK than achieving other, seemingly easier goals. Why is that so? Because it is much, much harder to work for to achieve a dream we don’t passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused on what is naturally a passionate interest. your work becomes play.

Is Your Dream a Good Fit?

Hopefully you have invested some thought clarifying your dream … and you know exactly what you want. If that is the case. why not take a few minutes to ask yourself an important question — am I pursuing the right dream and goal for ME?

Here is why that is so important: You will never really achieve your true potential as long as you pour your energy into something that does not really fit your true passions and interests! Does that seem too simple?

Think about it. It is often very easy to automatically adopt someone elses goal. We were trained to do that very thing as children.

Ninty-nine percent of us were fully expected to achieve the goals our parents and educational system set out for us. Some of us gave in and tried to comply. Some of us rebelled and learned to fail instead. And some of us felt somehow inadequate because we did not have the natural interest and/or aptitude to do what we were expected to do.

If you find you never seem to achieve your goals, you may be setting goals you don’t really desire or believe in for yourself.

This is never going to lead to success. What leads to is one false start after another… and a tendency to want to quit after the first bump in the road. This is a major dead-end, and will do nothing but gradually erode your self confidence.

PURSUE AN APPROPRIATE DREAM

Three things will happen if you make the effort to refocus yourself around a dream and supporting goal that is more in keeping with your natural talents and passions:

First, you will be happier, less stressed, and far more productive.

Second, you will be more likely to hang in when you hit those jarring bumps in the road.

ThirdFree Reprint Articles, there is a higher probability you will achieve a level of excellence at what you’re doing. This increases your value thereby increasing your potential for increased return on your efforts.

Put your goal to the test. Does it truly “measure up” to your innermost desires?Now … ask yourself this question: What do you have to do NOW to get what you want.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 

The author, Jill Ammon-Wexler, is a doctor of psychology and 45-year pioneer brain/mind researcher. Visit her website for more brain-smart articles, videos, and geta free mp3:buildmindpower.com

How To Become Successful, To Follow You’re Desire

How to be successful. Why aren’t you successful? You’re successful in life because you are doing the wrong things.

You have to first have a desire in life. Once you have desire you have a goal you strive to reach. Don’t sell yourself short. If you ask for a penny, just a penny. You will get just a penny.

The universe is there for you to give. Make sure you demand what you truly desire. You have to know it is possible. If you have any doubt in your mind it will not come true as you do not have faith that you can achieve it. What does the universe do in this case? It grants your desire.

Write down what you desire on paper. Set a date to when you will achieve this desire. See yourself with this desire. Make it clear in your mind that you have achieved this desire. If it is money, write down how much money, be specific, don’t just say a lot. The more specific you are the clearer the picture.

Start off by saying I desire, fill in the blank. You do this because the word desire is more powerful then the word want. Want is a statement saying that you do not have this, and that you can not see yourself having this. Desire is more powerful in it’s meaning. It means that you command to have this, and will find a way to achieve this.

After finish writing your desire on a piece of paper, read it. Read it in the morning, once in the afternoon, and at night. You are getting familiar with your desire and commanding it to be reality. Every time you read it, you see yourself achieving this desire. You strive in your actions everyday to achieve this as you begin to know it to be reality. You are accepting into your reality.

Your desire will get you through the rough patch, because your focus will only be on attaining this into reality. Go ahead dream big. Let your desire carry you through to achieving your goals. You must know it is possible and you will attain it. Commanding your mind to form this into reality will make it appear as you find a way to bring it to existence.

Do this exercise everyday. Start to command to the universe, your surroundings, to grant you your desires. The mind is an amazing tool, and the world around us has infinite possibilities.

I know you can achieve great things. You think Edison invented the light bulb just like that. No, he had a dream, and a desire to make it reality. It took him 10,000 attempts, but he got it. Why? He didn’t give up, he let his desire bring him there. He convinced his mind to bring it to reality. You can do the same.

I surround myself with successful people everyday to help me progress on my journey to success. I’m creating my own success with every step i take, every breath i take, I am achieving success. Switching your mindset will get you to living your desires. Begin your amazing journey to success.

Your best kind of thinking got you where you are now. You must take action and surround yourself with the right kind of people. You will find what it takes to become successful, and you commanding to the universe to grant you success. Be apart of something that will change your life, and show you how to become successful.

Success is not in some of us, it’s in all of us. There’s plenty to go around. It’s time to take action and change your life. You deserve it.

How to be Abundant: 3 Realizations to Having More Abundance in Life

Abundance and Momentum are closely connected. Taking action and cultivating the energy behind the action is the medium to which momentum and abundance can grow in our lives. If we believe in our ability to be abundant and successful, we will take action. This is because what we feel on the inside is always reflected back to us externally. The key is to focus on the internal feeling of it, take radical action and then detach from the outcome. This will allow us to feel more abundant and create more momentum in our lives.

by Aaron Doughty